Monday, December 04, 2006

Porn Video: Pros & Cons

Though the article might contain several controversial points there is a grain of truth in it as well.

What is the pornography? Is it a harmless hobby for some to enjoy in their personal lives? A sex aid to help spice up ones love life? Or is it a form of infidelity? According to statistics about 60% of men ages between 18 and 40 visit pornographic sites, browse through magazines, and watch adult porn movies. (I believe that the percentage is even higher. Perhaps, the numbers are influenced by geo-political factors.) Unfortunately, it’s very difficult to prevent pornography from falling into children’s hands. Very often, it is a lack of parental supervision. I am sure that most of the parents are not thrilled about the fact that they are partially responsible for their children being exposed to pornography. But the article is not about that. Pornography can also be destructive to some adults. Women start comparing themselves with slim busty porn stars and feel very uncomfortable and inferior. So, why do men watch porn? Why are there billions of dollars each year being spent on adult DVDs and other pornographic products? Hot girls with firm bodies and D-size breasts are not the main reason why men watch porn. Men want to see women who love sex, and are open to perform in a way that is full of lust and passion. Good looks are desirable but not the only quality that turns men on. These women are ready to fulfill every man’s desire and every wild fantasy. They are not exhausted by day-to-day routine. Their sex drive is not hindered by their busy day at work, raising children, cooking, and so on. Men watch porn movies and let their imagination and fantasies run away with them. We all do the same when we watch a good movie in a theater or read an intriguing book. So, why should pornographic material cause worry? According to some psychologists virtual sex has become a part of day-to-day life. They call pornography a kind of infidelity.

One point of view is that men are getting used to it in a way similar to that of people become addicted to alcohol, nicotine or other drugs. This kind of psychological dependence is hard to get rid of. In reality anything that produces a pleasurable feeling or emotion can become addicting to some. There are people who are addicted to food, television, and in some cases even sleep.

It doesn’t mean that virtual sex and pornography will affect most healthy men’s psychology. Not at all. It’s not a reason to break out one more Witch Hunt against pornography. Men watching porn movies from time to time, browsing through magazines with images of nude girls are all part of stimulating fantasy and sex-dreams. It’s a form of self-satisfaction, like masturbation. It’s one of characteristics peculiar to human sexuality. So when does pornography become a problem?This happens when pornography starts doing harm to your relationships. Some men become so enthralled in virtual sex that they begin to neglect their partners. That is a sure sign that it’s time to end their porn habit. For a majority of women the most offensive thing is when their partner try to keep their porn habits a secret. Many women associate such behavior with lies and betrayal. This may become a reason for relationships to break up. On the same note women should not be too harsh on their partners: for some men watching porn videos is the only way to avoid the temptation of real infidelity. The best solution is for you and your partner to openly discuss this problem and come to some form of understanding about one another’s needs. Many couples can learn to enjoy porn movies together. In fact porn videos have become a stimulating element in sexual lives of many couples. But if your partner keeps his avocation in secret, it may mean that he attaches more importance to it than is healthy. Try to analyze your relationships. Pornography may be a way for some to compensate where they feel that they lack attention or care. Try to discuss this problem in a calm open manner with your partner. Listen to your partner and pay attention to your relationship to make sure that he is not being neglected and pushed to using pornography as a means to satisfy his needs.

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