Life is too short to put up with a boring sex life. How to make love or please your partner isn't something that you learn at any school. Your first sex teacher is likely to have been a fellow hormonally challenged teenager who had no idea what she was doing either. Making love is something that most of us only learn about through experience and communication. But what if your partner isn't telling you what she likes and doesn't like?
You make love to your partner often enough and you've been doing it for awhile so you're pretty confident that you know what you're doing. But something is missing. Sex is just one of those things that you do together, like going out for dinner or watching a movie. And its OK. But its not great. Its a routine kind of thing. And while you tell yourself that's OK, a part of you knows that it could be so much more and that the best sex of your life is something you're starting to think you'll never get to experience. What if she is secretly unhappy too but doesn't want to say anything because she doesn't want you to feel like its your fault?
How can you inject some enthusiasm and passion when you make love? Recognizing that your love making isn't all it could be is a great first step. You could talk you her about how she's feeling but if you've got to this stage then its likely that talking about sex isn't something that either of you feel really comfortable with. This is a good opportunity to be proactive and come up with a few solutions yourself.
What is the solution? Here are a few suggestions to get you going:
VarietyIf you've been together awhile then sex can get a bit same old, same old. When you make love try new positions, new locations, new techniques. Surprise her.
Seek Out Sex Help and Find Out What You Don't KnowThere is that saying about how you don't know what you don't know and when it comes to lovemaking we all think we know what to do. But its just not true. Of course, once your eyes have been opened to the possibilities and tips and tricks that are out and really aren't that difficult to master, you'll be amazed at what you thought you knew and how you really had no idea.
Don't Just Lie ThereYou need to take charge and make sure her needs are met and you can't do that if you're lying on your back letting her do all the work. And besides you know you'll have an orgasm but you need to make sure she does and that requires effort. Before you start thinking that is unfair and asking why should you have to do all the work just remember that if she has a great time you'll have a really great time! When you do come, your orgasm will be more intense for having watched and helped her climax.
Seduce HerGuys tend to think that great sex is about what you do with your bodies but its not like that for women. Getting them in the mood for sex is just as important as what happens once you start to make love. Give her compliments (but not just when you're wanting sex!), pay attention to her, listen, and touch. Make touching an important part of the time you spend with each other, show her how much you adore her.
Being committed to improving your lovemaking and your partner's sexual experiences is going to set you on an amazing journey that will bring you closer together and guarantee you the best sex of your life. Are you ready?
Monday, December 25, 2006
Sunday, December 24, 2006
I Slept with Him - Now He's Distant. What Did I do Wrong?
One of Becca Bee's readers slept with her boyfriend. Now he is distant and wants some space. What should this unfortunate reader do next?
Dear Becca:
I have been dating a guy. The other day we slept together - and now he is standoffish. He told me that he needs some space, because he has a problem in his life that he has to iron out right now. I'm not sure what I should do next. Can you help?
Sincerely, 'Bewildered'
Dear Bewildered:
You are facing a commonplace dilemma. However, the reasons for this type of situation are not always the same. I will give you some points to consider - and perhaps they will help you to unravel the mystery.
Is your relationship long-term, or have you known the guy for just a few days?
Religious convictions, cultural biases, and upbringing affect everyone to varying degrees. We generally consider ourselves a liberated society - but these childhood roots go deep. Perhaps your date feels remorse and guilt. He may even consider you immoral.
Did your lovemaking go well? Were you both happy with your time in bed - or did it feel awkward in any way? Do you have a deep-rooted suspicion that something serious happened during this time?
You and your partner are the only two people who can answer these questions.
Carefully recall every detail and try to zero in on the exact moment you noticed a change in his behavior. Now mentally review the immediately preceding events. Can you remember anything specific?
Did you infer by words or actions that you expect some kind of a commitment now that your relationship has progressed to the next level?
Has your partner had other relationships with similar problems? For the answer to this question, you need to have an open discussion with him. A similar past may indicate that he is a man who feels trapped by close emotional ties.
Then there is the type of guy who enjoys chasing a woman until he catches her. Once the relationship is consummated, the euphoria of conquest dwindles and he quickly loses interest.
On the plus side: perhaps none of the above applies - and he is actually falling in love with you. He may be experiencing panic due to a fear of rejection. Once you commit to someone, your heart becomes vulnerable and easily hurt.
After you consider all of the above thoughts very carefully, you may realize that you have a reasonably good idea of when and where your problem occurred. Try to allow reason to rule over passion, then make some logical decisions based on what you know, not what you feel.
Attempt to get more feedback from him by meeting for a frank discussion. Sure, most guys don't like to talk - but use your feminine wiles or whatever else you have in your arsenal to make him comfortable before you broach the topic.
As liberated as we are supposed to be nowadays, talking about sex and relationships can make many people blush. Forget the embarrassment and forge ahead - your relationship is at stake.
Once your meeting with him is over, determine what happens next. Do you think there is anything worth salvaging? Or should you resolve to move on?
Good luck with this difficult situation!
Becca
All advice given by Becca is for entertainment purposes only. Please seek professional help for serious problems.
Dear Becca:
I have been dating a guy. The other day we slept together - and now he is standoffish. He told me that he needs some space, because he has a problem in his life that he has to iron out right now. I'm not sure what I should do next. Can you help?
Sincerely, 'Bewildered'
Dear Bewildered:
You are facing a commonplace dilemma. However, the reasons for this type of situation are not always the same. I will give you some points to consider - and perhaps they will help you to unravel the mystery.
Is your relationship long-term, or have you known the guy for just a few days?
Religious convictions, cultural biases, and upbringing affect everyone to varying degrees. We generally consider ourselves a liberated society - but these childhood roots go deep. Perhaps your date feels remorse and guilt. He may even consider you immoral.
Did your lovemaking go well? Were you both happy with your time in bed - or did it feel awkward in any way? Do you have a deep-rooted suspicion that something serious happened during this time?
You and your partner are the only two people who can answer these questions.
Carefully recall every detail and try to zero in on the exact moment you noticed a change in his behavior. Now mentally review the immediately preceding events. Can you remember anything specific?
Did you infer by words or actions that you expect some kind of a commitment now that your relationship has progressed to the next level?
Has your partner had other relationships with similar problems? For the answer to this question, you need to have an open discussion with him. A similar past may indicate that he is a man who feels trapped by close emotional ties.
Then there is the type of guy who enjoys chasing a woman until he catches her. Once the relationship is consummated, the euphoria of conquest dwindles and he quickly loses interest.
On the plus side: perhaps none of the above applies - and he is actually falling in love with you. He may be experiencing panic due to a fear of rejection. Once you commit to someone, your heart becomes vulnerable and easily hurt.
After you consider all of the above thoughts very carefully, you may realize that you have a reasonably good idea of when and where your problem occurred. Try to allow reason to rule over passion, then make some logical decisions based on what you know, not what you feel.
Attempt to get more feedback from him by meeting for a frank discussion. Sure, most guys don't like to talk - but use your feminine wiles or whatever else you have in your arsenal to make him comfortable before you broach the topic.
As liberated as we are supposed to be nowadays, talking about sex and relationships can make many people blush. Forget the embarrassment and forge ahead - your relationship is at stake.
Once your meeting with him is over, determine what happens next. Do you think there is anything worth salvaging? Or should you resolve to move on?
Good luck with this difficult situation!
Becca
All advice given by Becca is for entertainment purposes only. Please seek professional help for serious problems.
Saturday, December 23, 2006
Free Adult Dating Site: Find Out What You Need To Know
With the advent of the Internet, with its chat rooms, personals, free dating services, and even the paid sites, finding someone to date has become easier and harder at the same time. Today, there are many free online dating services as those that require memberships.
Finding the right dating service to post your profile is extremely important, but many people do not want to pay for the service. Fortunately, most free online dating services have almost the same features as the paid ones, so people can get the same benefit without having to pay for anything.
Here are some guidelines to remember when looking at free online dating sites.
1. Privacy policy Even a free online dating site has to have its own privacy policy. This means that online dating sites should never sell or use their member's e-mail address or personal information for anything else. Privacy policies usually are long and full of "legalese," but make sure you read it before posting anything on an on-line dating site!
2. Background checkingBefore you commit to a particular online dating site (or sites), check their reputation on-line. You can find a lot of information if you do a quick search.
3. Extra featuresNot all free online dating services are created equal. So, even if they are free, some can provide greater features compared to others.
4. Log-in safety measuresEven if the site seems okay, remember never to use your real name when creating a user name or use an e-mail address. It is always best to maintain certain level of secrecy for your security. Make sure you do not put any
5. Free trial offersAlmost all online dating services offer free trials. The trial membership may be limited in scope, but it wouldn't hurt to try, just as long as a person observes safety online dating guidelines. After all, there's nothing to lose because they are free.
After the free online dating service is chosen, make sure to keep a few things in mind: Your safety should always be your top priority. You cannot know someone just by their profile and speaking with them on the phone. If and when you meet your date, make sure you meet in a neutral location and you have your own way home (and will not be followed). If more people used their common sense, perhaps online dating would have a better reputation.
Thursday, December 14, 2006
Relationship Problems & Advice - Providing A Fresh Approach - Part 3
Here it comes. The whining whistle of the incoming mortar sings its refrain. It will land. It will explode. It will do damage. You have heard the sound of incoming before. You know it all too well. You can hear and see it coming. The tone of voice. The angry scowl. The condescending look. The raised fist.
Your instinctive ability to sense the incoming hurt causes an automatic reflex reaction, designed to protect, or to save your heart. You brace for impact. You cover your head. You duck and hide. You shut down emotionally. You prepare by getting numb with drugs or alcohol. You condition your heart with a callous covering that takes on any of a number of forms. Then when you see an opening you return fire.
Enemy or friend, you pop up for long enough to squeeze off a few carefully placed rounds. Target: their heart. Intention: to hurt, or even to kill. No, the desire is not to remove life from the person, just to remove you from the battle. The desire is to keep them far enough away so you won't get hurt... again. Very often the bullets are flying all around the kitchen, living room, dining room, bathroom, and even the bedroom. The car. The store. The party. The battlefield is everywhere.
Most of the time, these bullets are intended to be in defense only, and yet as they leave they transform into incoming for the other person. They hear the whining whistle of the incoming and brace for impact. They know the sound, too. If you're paying attention, you can actually see them take cover, shut down emotionally, hide in addiction, or even run away from the battlefield of bitterness and resentment.
Why is it that the people who are the closest to me say and do the things that hurt the most? When I return fire, what is the cost of the damage? Am I training or conditioning my loved ones to hide from me? Are they preparing for battle with me by numbing down with drugs and alcohol? Am I shooting first to minimize my own internal damage and then asking questions later? Have I managed to achieve a 1/1 incoming volley to return fire ratio? Have I managed to protect myself by conveniently keeping my close, loving relationships at an arm’s length? Have I managed to make a complete mess of things?
Here it comes again. Incoming! The choice is yours. Hide. Run. Numb. Ignore. Leave. Return fire. Raise the shield of God.
When provoked by the Philistines, what was Samson’s response? (Judges 15:15) “He found a fresh jawbone of a donkey, and put forth his hand, and took it, and struck a thousand men therewith.” I don’t know about you, but I do not desire to take this kind of revenge on anyone. Taking this type of revenge on those closest to me would be reprehensible, absolutely unacceptable. So why then, do I continue to return fire, or even shoot first?
There is never a clean shot. All wounds leave a fragment of the hurt, something like shrapnel in the heart. There is a limit to the number of hits any human heart can take before desiring to run, hide, numb, ignore, or even die. So why do we continue?
As I sit here in my foxhole, thinking about the battle, and the war, I begin to wonder. I have so many questions when I get quiet and think deeply about the relationships I have chosen, and the ones I have been gifted with.
Let’s look at the line in the sand from our side for a while. In any single relationship between two people, there are two sides to the line in the sand. Looking from the first-person view, there are MY side and YOUR side. The others out there on the other side of the line are doing what they do. I have no control over their thoughts, choices or actions. They will do whatever they choose to do.
Repeat after me. I, being on my side of the line, then, have control over only one thing: ME.
My thoughts are what I think. I will process any incoming in any way I choose. The key here is that I have a choice. I get to choose what to do with anything that comes my way from any source. I choose my thoughts, my words, and my actions. I do sometimes find myself wishing I had made a different or better choice, however. Which means that there is so much to consider when making the choice of how to respond in any given circumstance. Usually my remorse will happen within a few seconds, if not instantly!
In the next few articless we will examine some of the factors affecting the choices we get to make, so let's take some time to reflect about our choices to return fire.
Please visit http://www.worthim.com to read the complete FREE online ebook! Your relationships will benefit tremendously from this experience!
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Martin_Worthington
Your instinctive ability to sense the incoming hurt causes an automatic reflex reaction, designed to protect, or to save your heart. You brace for impact. You cover your head. You duck and hide. You shut down emotionally. You prepare by getting numb with drugs or alcohol. You condition your heart with a callous covering that takes on any of a number of forms. Then when you see an opening you return fire.
Enemy or friend, you pop up for long enough to squeeze off a few carefully placed rounds. Target: their heart. Intention: to hurt, or even to kill. No, the desire is not to remove life from the person, just to remove you from the battle. The desire is to keep them far enough away so you won't get hurt... again. Very often the bullets are flying all around the kitchen, living room, dining room, bathroom, and even the bedroom. The car. The store. The party. The battlefield is everywhere.
Most of the time, these bullets are intended to be in defense only, and yet as they leave they transform into incoming for the other person. They hear the whining whistle of the incoming and brace for impact. They know the sound, too. If you're paying attention, you can actually see them take cover, shut down emotionally, hide in addiction, or even run away from the battlefield of bitterness and resentment.
Why is it that the people who are the closest to me say and do the things that hurt the most? When I return fire, what is the cost of the damage? Am I training or conditioning my loved ones to hide from me? Are they preparing for battle with me by numbing down with drugs and alcohol? Am I shooting first to minimize my own internal damage and then asking questions later? Have I managed to achieve a 1/1 incoming volley to return fire ratio? Have I managed to protect myself by conveniently keeping my close, loving relationships at an arm’s length? Have I managed to make a complete mess of things?
Here it comes again. Incoming! The choice is yours. Hide. Run. Numb. Ignore. Leave. Return fire. Raise the shield of God.
When provoked by the Philistines, what was Samson’s response? (Judges 15:15) “He found a fresh jawbone of a donkey, and put forth his hand, and took it, and struck a thousand men therewith.” I don’t know about you, but I do not desire to take this kind of revenge on anyone. Taking this type of revenge on those closest to me would be reprehensible, absolutely unacceptable. So why then, do I continue to return fire, or even shoot first?
There is never a clean shot. All wounds leave a fragment of the hurt, something like shrapnel in the heart. There is a limit to the number of hits any human heart can take before desiring to run, hide, numb, ignore, or even die. So why do we continue?
As I sit here in my foxhole, thinking about the battle, and the war, I begin to wonder. I have so many questions when I get quiet and think deeply about the relationships I have chosen, and the ones I have been gifted with.
Let’s look at the line in the sand from our side for a while. In any single relationship between two people, there are two sides to the line in the sand. Looking from the first-person view, there are MY side and YOUR side. The others out there on the other side of the line are doing what they do. I have no control over their thoughts, choices or actions. They will do whatever they choose to do.
Repeat after me. I, being on my side of the line, then, have control over only one thing: ME.
My thoughts are what I think. I will process any incoming in any way I choose. The key here is that I have a choice. I get to choose what to do with anything that comes my way from any source. I choose my thoughts, my words, and my actions. I do sometimes find myself wishing I had made a different or better choice, however. Which means that there is so much to consider when making the choice of how to respond in any given circumstance. Usually my remorse will happen within a few seconds, if not instantly!
In the next few articless we will examine some of the factors affecting the choices we get to make, so let's take some time to reflect about our choices to return fire.
Please visit http://www.worthim.com to read the complete FREE online ebook! Your relationships will benefit tremendously from this experience!
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Martin_Worthington
Sunday, December 10, 2006
Some Helpful Hints for Giving Wedding Speeches
Giving a speech is probably the most daunting task that the best man has to do at a wedding reception. Today even the maid or matron of honor is being asked to do the same thing on the wedding reception. The problem with wedding speeches is that most people really don’t know what to say. Of course, there are a few who are gifted at writing and delivering a speech.
However, many people can suffer through a speech and have no idea about what they should say or do.
Some people can freeze in the middle of wedding speeches out of pure fright. There can be a lot of pressure to give the perfect speech. We are all afraid that the wedding speeches that we deliver may be memorable for all the wrong reasons. Some people like to use humor, but this can be very tricky. Talking about the couples first date might be funny, but Grandma won’t like it if it involves drinking and public nudity. It can be tough to think of interesting things that will interest everyone. Speakers can often feel the pressure before they even stand up and open their mouths.
You will be glad to know that you can find help if you have to give a speech soon. There are many good wedding speeches online that can be customized to suit the bride and groom. This may help you relax a little, because you will know at the very least it was a good speech when you started. Don’t hesitate to ask for help if you are having trouble personalizing the speech. Remember to pick something appropriate for everyone.
Take some time to think it through, and run it by a few people before the big day if you want to write your own wedding speeches. Avoid saying anything you wouldn’t want anyone to say about you in front of all of your family and friends. It’s alright to use humor if you are sure you aren’t going to make Aunt Mary pass out. Try to keep it simple. Great wedding speeches don’t have to be long and detailed; they simply have to come from the heart. You don’t have anything to worry about if you write something that comes directly from your heart and your love of the couple.
Friday, December 08, 2006
4 Rules That Can Save Your Marriage: Rule 2
Hard-hitting advice from a seasoned marriage therapist. Discover the 4 rules you should follow to perfect, improve, or save your marriage. Part 1 of 4.
The last article focused on the approach of not taking everything personally (article is available at http://www.savethemarriage.com/blog/blog.html) But there are several more rules that can help you with your marriage. The next rule is an internal understanding that will transform your external actions.
Rule 2: Honor Your Commitment
This rule may seem obvious, but it isn't always reflected in our actions toward our spouse. You see, our commitment, our promise to be together through it all, is the cement of marriage. We often underestimate the importance of commitment in our throw-away, disposable culture.
Yet powerful psychological shifts happen in a marriage as a result of commitment. Think back to your wedding vows. Most of us took a vow to stay together regardless of how our lives are going. We promise to "hang in there," through thick-and-thin, regardless of how our emotions are running at any particular time.
Think for a moment about the power of knowing that someone makes a promise to get through any difficulty with you. That completely frees you up to work on the relationship, to resolve your difficulties, because at the end of the day, you will be together.
In other words, commitment is the glue of a marriage. In fact, while we may center marriages on lots of other ideals or attributes, this is the one that carries the day. Center a marriage on happiness, and when there is a period that lacks in happiness, there is no foundation. Center a marriage of great sex, and when they fails, there is no safety net. Center a marriage on any particular goal, and when that goal is met (money, kids, careers, etc.), there isn't anywhere to go. But commitment is a continual event, and one that we can maintain by our own choice.
Don't get me wrong. I recognize this is easier said than done, but isn't that the point? Marriage is about consciously choosing the direction of the relationship, rather than being blown by external events and expectations.
Which leads me to one of the implications for this rule: don't threaten to leave or divorce in the midst of conflict. I have seen far too many couples where the basic level of trust between them has been eroded by threats of divorce or one leaving for a period of time.
The effect of this is to undermine the glue of commitment. It basically creates the message that as long as things are going well, you will stay around. But when things get tough, you change the rules and decide to leave. That is not an environment conducive to working out a relationship. It means that one or both people are always on guard of being left.
It reminds me of a book I recently saw in the bookstore on wedding vows. The author, I think with the best of intentions, stated her belief that vows need to be changed to reflect the "temporary nature of marriages." She suggested that a promise could be made "as long as we love each other," or "as long as we want to be together" as a substitute for "as long as we both shall live." That is not a vow! That is basically a statement that "I promise to stay with you until I decide not to." There is not a lot of stability to build upon.
When we make a vow, we assume we have some control over the outcome. If I commit to staying in a marriage, I have control over that. When things get difficult, I can continue to rely on the fact that I made a promise, and therefore, I will work it out.
Which brings me to the second major implication of this rule: a marriage built on commitment means that both people can relax into the marriage and drop the basic fear that the other person is going to leave. By relax, I don't mean "let it go, but rather a realization that fear is not necessary. In fact, it gives me full ownership of the relationship. I am responsible for my half of the commitment, and must make it work for myself and for my spouse. And if both people are willing to focus on the commitment, the reverse is also happening.
So today, make a decision to be committed in your relationship. Don't avoid the commitment, but embrace it as the direction through difficulty. Take a look in the mirror and see someone taking responsibility for your half of the marriage staying together for as long as your vows suggested.
Thursday, December 07, 2006
Sacred Sex
To many people the words sacred and sex do not belong in the same sentence. To the mystic this is a way to improve our health, strengthen our energy bodies, help manifest our heart's desires, with the ultimate goal of communing with God.
Human sexual energy is among the most potent energies found on earth. The drive to mate is innate in human beings. Marketers use this drive to sell just about every product imaginable, from luxury goods to simple grooming items. You do not have to be a marketing wizard to recognize a long sports car sliding on a rain-slicked road hints at the sexual satisfaction you will derive from owning that vehicle.
The Law of the Triangle states that when two opposing energies come together, there is the potential to create a third energy. When a man and a woman come together, the potential is to create a child. But this energy can be used to manifest whatever you desire, as well as to commune with God.
Kundalini energy is the name given to this energy that usually lays dormant at the base of the spine. Upon activation by yoga, breathing exercises, meditation, natural spiritual development, or by a partner whose kundalini has already awakened, it rises along the spine through two channels called nadis. Like two intertwined snakes, the energy crosses at each of the lower six chakras. The seventh chakra represents enlightenment. The medical caduceus, the symbol of the American Medical Association, is a graphic representation of kundalini energy rising.
In many sexual encounters, only the lower two chakras are involved. This can produce a brief flash of pleasure followed by a void because the other chakras are not involved. It can be tiring, as the sexual energy has been disbursed. Sleep often follows such encounters.
On the other hand, when a man and a woman engage in foreplay as a part of a sacred sexual experience, they act as catalysts for each other, encouraging the energy to rise in their partner. Over time, and sometimes spontaneously, this energy releases blocks in the chakras and burns off impurities in your energy bodies. As the energy rises, it is possible for both men and woman to experience multiple orgasms. Distinctions between male and female can disappear and the identification of whose orgasm is being experienced becomes blurred, as the two partners become one.
Far more sexual energy is produced by such an encounter, and aside from the obvious potential for pleasure, sacred sex strengthens the etheric body and opens passages to higher consciousness. The etheric body contains the blueprint for your physical body. A stronger etheric body can improve your health, while magnifying your desires and increasing the likelihood of their manifestation. This is especially true for thoughts you hold at the point of orgasm.
For best results, a woman must feel completely safe, loved and protected in order to release fully the energy contained within her being. This is an understandable basis for certain religious beliefs that people should only have sex within the context of marriage. The issue is not whether you have a society-approved license, but that the woman feels loved, protected and adored.
Sexual energy can also be produced by same sex relationships or by an individual alone, but in these cases you don't have the opposite polarities or the mixing of the male/female hormones and body fluids that augments the energy and brings it to its fullest expression.
Remember, each sexual encounter results in a transfer of energy. You want to be careful as to what and whose energy you're taking into your own energy bodies. Negative or low vibration energies are not conducive to becoming enlightened and will inhibit your getting closer to God. These low energies merely add to the discordant energies that must be burned off if you are seeking spiritual advancement. This is even truer for women as they are the receptacle for the male's energy.
In a committed relationship the two partners act as mirrors for each other, intensifying the purification process. The goal of our spiritual evolution is to eliminate all impurities from our energy bodies. Sacred sex intensifies the process and allows couples to eliminate the negative, while experiencing higher levels of consciousness than either partner could attain on his or her own.
When all the benefits are considered: improved health, release of impurities, strengthened etheric bodies to manifest your desires, not to mention the pleasure derived, it's a wonder more people do not pursue this ecstatic activity. Especially, when it contributes to our ultimate goal of communing with God.
Tuesday, December 05, 2006
3 Tips On How To Effectively Overcome Premature Ejaculation
If you are looking for free tips on how to overcome premature ejaculation, this is the article you are looking for. This is going to help a lot if you follow the instructions correctly. Read on to know why...
If you are looking for free tips on how to overcome premature ejaculation, this is the article you are looking for. This is going to help a lot if you follow the instructions correctly.
Here are some tips:
1- Breathe deeply and continuously
Breathing, believe it or not, is a good method to overcome premature ejaculation. Why? Because the less oxygen the penis receives, the less blood that flows in and out of it. And if the penis has a high quantity of blood in it, it's more sensitive and stressed, therefore, causing it to ejaculate quicker than you desire. So, remember to breathe deeply and continuously.
2- Masturbate before sexual intercourse
This could be a remedy for some, and a bad thing for the rest. But, talking about it as a remedy, it helps because you ejaculate before intercourse which means that the penis is a LOT more relaxed. So, it can last longer than if you didn't masturbate before.
3- Squeezing
This can be done during the intercourse. You just press the end of the penile shaft when you feel you are going to ejaculate in a few. Pressing the penile shaft causes the penis to lose some stimulation, therefore, you can continue without ejaculating. Don't be late! If you let the penis be too close to ejaculate, you have less chance of stopping its stimulation.
Monday, December 04, 2006
Porn Video: Pros & Cons
Though the article might contain several controversial points there is a grain of truth in it as well.
What is the pornography? Is it a harmless hobby for some to enjoy in their personal lives? A sex aid to help spice up ones love life? Or is it a form of infidelity? According to statistics about 60% of men ages between 18 and 40 visit pornographic sites, browse through magazines, and watch adult porn movies. (I believe that the percentage is even higher. Perhaps, the numbers are influenced by geo-political factors.) Unfortunately, it’s very difficult to prevent pornography from falling into children’s hands. Very often, it is a lack of parental supervision. I am sure that most of the parents are not thrilled about the fact that they are partially responsible for their children being exposed to pornography. But the article is not about that. Pornography can also be destructive to some adults. Women start comparing themselves with slim busty porn stars and feel very uncomfortable and inferior. So, why do men watch porn? Why are there billions of dollars each year being spent on adult DVDs and other pornographic products? Hot girls with firm bodies and D-size breasts are not the main reason why men watch porn. Men want to see women who love sex, and are open to perform in a way that is full of lust and passion. Good looks are desirable but not the only quality that turns men on. These women are ready to fulfill every man’s desire and every wild fantasy. They are not exhausted by day-to-day routine. Their sex drive is not hindered by their busy day at work, raising children, cooking, and so on. Men watch porn movies and let their imagination and fantasies run away with them. We all do the same when we watch a good movie in a theater or read an intriguing book. So, why should pornographic material cause worry? According to some psychologists virtual sex has become a part of day-to-day life. They call pornography a kind of infidelity.One point of view is that men are getting used to it in a way similar to that of people become addicted to alcohol, nicotine or other drugs. This kind of psychological dependence is hard to get rid of. In reality anything that produces a pleasurable feeling or emotion can become addicting to some. There are people who are addicted to food, television, and in some cases even sleep.
It doesn’t mean that virtual sex and pornography will affect most healthy men’s psychology. Not at all. It’s not a reason to break out one more Witch Hunt against pornography. Men watching porn movies from time to time, browsing through magazines with images of nude girls are all part of stimulating fantasy and sex-dreams. It’s a form of self-satisfaction, like masturbation. It’s one of characteristics peculiar to human sexuality. So when does pornography become a problem?This happens when pornography starts doing harm to your relationships. Some men become so enthralled in virtual sex that they begin to neglect their partners. That is a sure sign that it’s time to end their porn habit. For a majority of women the most offensive thing is when their partner try to keep their porn habits a secret. Many women associate such behavior with lies and betrayal. This may become a reason for relationships to break up. On the same note women should not be too harsh on their partners: for some men watching porn videos is the only way to avoid the temptation of real infidelity. The best solution is for you and your partner to openly discuss this problem and come to some form of understanding about one another’s needs. Many couples can learn to enjoy porn movies together. In fact porn videos have become a stimulating element in sexual lives of many couples. But if your partner keeps his avocation in secret, it may mean that he attaches more importance to it than is healthy. Try to analyze your relationships. Pornography may be a way for some to compensate where they feel that they lack attention or care. Try to discuss this problem in a calm open manner with your partner. Listen to your partner and pay attention to your relationship to make sure that he is not being neglected and pushed to using pornography as a means to satisfy his needs.
Choosing a Sex Toy Right for You
Many women around the world are thinking of buying a vibrator. There may be dozens of various reasons for such a decision, but the thing is it's not as simple as it may seem to choose the right one for oneself. If you are serious about buying this sex toy for yourself, your partner, or both of you, take some time to answer several questions. This will help you understand what kind of vibrator you need for highest sexual pleasure and satisfaction.
Going directly to the store, no matter if it's an on-line store or a physical one, may leave you frustrated: there are several hundreds (if not thousands) of various types of vibrators. Sometimes they are labeled as "Basic Vibrators" and "Multi-Sensation Vibrators". The latter possess more complex design and are intended for simultaneous stimulation of various erogenous areas (for example: G-spot and the clitoris). Basic vibrators are also used for sexual stimulation as well as in massage. They have more primitive shape, usually not penis-shaped, and have fewer operating modes.
The first question you should answer is: what kind of stimulation do you need? Internal or external? Clitoral? Vaginal? Anal? G-spot? Or perhaps you need a combination of stimulations on parts listed here? Basic Vibes used for solely clitoral stimulation and Multi-sensation vibrators for clitoris may be practically of any kind: butterflies, remote control panties, finger-shaped, etc. The thing is that most vibes for internal stimulation may also be used for external one. The only limitation here is vibration intensity a woman may need to get real sensual pleasure.
Here we come to the second question: how intense should the vibration be? Of course, it'll be rather difficult to answer this question if it's your first experience with a vibrator. Use your natural masturbation technique as a guide. Do you like a softer touch, more pressure, faster movement, etc…? Think of the way you are rubbing yourself while masturbating. This will give you a slight hint. Usually electric, especially plug-in models vibrate with the most intensity. They are used for erotic massage as well and if a vibe is only 1 AA-battery-operated, it will give you slight vibration. Multi-sensation vibes allow you for a wider choice because, as a rule, they have more operating modes. There are multi-speed basic vibrators as well.
The next important thing is the material. The most popular materials are plastic, latex, silicone, jelly and Cyberskin.
Cyberskin ( or Ultraskin, Eroskin, Realistic, Softskin, Cyber Jel-lee, Futurotic and UR3.)- material, imitates that of human skin. It is soft and maintains warmth. It is also very flexible and elastic. Products made of Cyberskin should be cleansed with "renewal" talc to extend their working life. You may also use special lubricants. The pleasure you get from these products is worth their price. Besides, this material is considered to be the least allergenic.
Silicone Silicone is close to Cyberskin material. Sex toys made of silicone are also known as hypo-allergenic. They don't need special treatment and may be washed with warm water and soap. They have a long working life and are less expensive than Cyberskin sex toys.
Jelly sex toys are a good combination of price and quality. They are not as soft and realistic as Cyberskin sex toys, but applying sufficient water-based lubricants may make up the deficiency. Jelly toys are not as allergic-free. The material is more porous and can't be completely sterilized.
Latex is harder in texture than "realistic" or jelly material. It won't give you that realistic sensation. Latex sex toys are considerably cheaper but have a shorter working life. Not completely allergen-free.
Plastic sex toys are cold, hard and inflexible. Some of them vibrate very intensively and for that reason some people enjoy them. They aren't allergen-free and need good cleaning.
The next question is whether it should be a battery-powered or electric vibrator. Today most vibes are battery powered. As a rule they are less expensive, made of different variety of materials, and have an array of shapes and sizes. Pocket vibrators which are usually battery operated are compact enough to take with you anywhere. The disadvantage of battery-powered vibrators is that they have a shorter working life and fail faster than electric ones.
Electric vibrators are more expensive as they are considered to be of a better quality. Some of them need to be plugged in while others are rechargeable. These types of vibrators tend to be noisier.
Portable pocket vibrators are small but they are used mainly for clitoral stimulation. Take into consideration the girth of the toy as it may be as important as vibration intensity, but be careful when choosing a vibrator for anal stimulation. Choose a toy that is not too thick that it could cause too much discomfort or possible damage to the anal region. Always remember to use generous amounts of lube.
And the last point to mention is toy's appearance. There's a great variety of models. They differ in color, shape, and sizes. Some look very realistic, while others resemble a pocket torch made in a shape of ballistic rocket. When choosing a vibrator try to remember some of your hottest sexual experiences and choose a vibe that looks appealing and attractive to you. If choosing a toy for both you and your partner find one that appeals to both of you, for maximal enjoyment.
I want to make a comment that I don't pretend to be a complete guru on the subject of sex toys, but I hope this short overview was helpful. I also hope you make the right choice with you new sex toy and discover amazing, new sexual pleasures.
Sunday, December 03, 2006
I Love Her, but She Just Wants to be Friends - any Advice?
Relationships are tough at the best of times. What happens if you are in love with a girl who just wants to be 'friends'? Becca Bee shares her thoughts.
Dear Becca:
I have been friends with this girl for about three years. We have become very close over that time. We hang out a lot, we have gotten physical in the past (no sex), but always kept it loose. We even 'sleep together' on occasion.
Here is my problem. I have fallen in love with her. She knows about it, and is not completely opposed to the idea of us dating. However, she doesn't want to lose me as a friend if we were to break up. She has in the past been in situations like ours and has lost good friends because of it. I really want to see what could happen with this relationship. I just have no idea what I should do, because in my heart I know I can't go back. Any ideas?
Sincerely, 'Confused'
Dear Confused:
I have been trying to determine how old you are. You appear to have a good command of grammar. Given the clues in your letter, I am guessing that you are not a young teenager. My advice for someone who is thirteen years of age is different than it would be for an adult.
As human beings, we are very adaptable and can fall in love with more than one personality type. However, puppy love crushes aside, we usually know deep down when we are absolutely devoted to another person.
So, I have to ask you: are you really and truly, body and soul, in love with this girl? She appears to have some kind of affection for you at this point. That could change; but after three years, if love were to flower, there should be at least a blossom sprouting at this point.
Have you lavished gifts on her? Is she stringing you along because she doesn't want the gravy train to stop? Be honest.
How many good friends has she lost in the past? A couple of similar situations may be isolated instances. However, three or more unsuccessful affairs may be evidence of a trend. This girl may be shallow and incapable of a loving relationship right now. Or she may really have been hurt by someone in the past.
You need to sit down with her and discuss her past relationships in depth. Don't let love blind you. Before your discussion, write down or type out some questions. Try to anticipate what she might say and think of more questions - sort of like a computer flowchart. Spend some time with what you have written and try to commit it to memory (not word for word - just the general gist of everything).
The very act of flowcharting may give you some direction and open your mind to possibilities you hadn't previously considered.
If you and the girl cannot come to a meeting of the minds after your heart-to-heart discussion, it might be wise to seek out professional help.
The rest of your life may be at stake here. Use your head - and not the little one - in a mature way.
All the best!
Becca
All advice given by Becca is for entertainment purposes only. Please seek professional help for serious problems.
Saturday, December 02, 2006
Love Letter Writing Guide - How to Write Romantic Love Letters
What can be more romantic than sending a handwritten love letter to your loved one, full of romantic words and genuine feelings you have for him/her?
Love letters are one of the best ways to show your special loved ones how you feel for them and how much you love them.
A heartfelt love letter also makes the perfect gift for Valentine's Day, but you don't have to just limit yourself to that specific day. Every day is a great opportunity to make your loved one happy by sharing your deepest feelings with him/her.
The great thing about love letters is that you don't have to be a poet or a skilled "writer" to be able to write them. Everyone - and I really mean "everyone" - can do it.
Because they are just about putting your romantic feelings into words genuinely - even in very simple words. This openness is what makes love letters special.
To write a more romantic and heart warming letter, here are some questions that will give you good ideas to write about:
Idea #1: What was the first time you felt you were in love with him/her? Did anything special happen that made you realize your love?
You can describe in clear details how it happened and how you felt and it will mean the world to your loved one. I promise. :-)
Idea #2: What is the #1 thing he/she has that makes you feel so much in love with him/her whenever you think about it? It could be about looks or about personality.
For example you may say "the way her face shines when she smiles", or "the way his eyes always bring peace and love to me when I look into them."
Idea #3: What positive changes have you made since he/she has entered your life? What valuable lessons have you learned from him/her?
For example it could be that before you met him/her, you were pretty shy and didn't fully believe in yourself and your unique abilities, but he/she helped you love yourself more and be proud of who you are.
When your loved one reads this, she will practically feel on clouds because he/she sees what a big difference he/she had made in your life.
Idea #4: It's also a good idea to include a heartfelt romantic love poem at the end or the beginning of your letter. Sometimes nothing can show how we feel better and deeper than a good poem.
Idea #5: And as the last tip: Don't forget to say "I Love You" at the end of your letter. This simple yet effective sentence will really seal the deal in your loved one's mind.
Wish you a wonderful life full of love,
Ladan Lashkari
Tantra
TANTRA. What image does that word conjure up in your mind? Promiscuous sex? Mate swapping? Orgies? Group sex? Nudist camps? Massage with freebies on the side?
How about none of the above?
Tantra is revealed as a practical and yes, “respectable” yoga that slows the aging process, utilizes sexual energy for health, joy, peace and love. Great sex is a by products of this ancient yoga.
While other yoga and fitness practices focus on the external muscles of the physical body, the emphasis in Tantra is on isolating and exercising the internal muscles, including the muscle of the mind. A wholesome approach to sexuality, tantra yoga can be learned even if you have never done any kind of yoga or exercise in the past. Many of the exercises, dances and meditations are not only fun to do, but serve a deeper purpose.
Over a thousand years ago meditation masters in India and Tibet were practicing this very highly secret tradition called Tantra. Today we merge these secret Eastern techniques along with contemporary Western methods to stimulate the internal organs, invigorate the hormone producing endocrine glands that balance energy for better health, focus and creativity.
Mastering sexual energy is not something learned overnight, or at weekend workshops. There is so much more. Activating sexual energy rejuvenates the body and frees the mind from daily stresses. And sex? You can experience the best sex you have ever had if you commit yourself to doing these meditation practices everyday.
Why? Beyond ecstasy is your Self. When you transcend mind through meditation, your heart opens, and your Soul becomes fully present. Although you may have tasted this blissful place for a moment, tantric discipline enables you to live in this state permanently. When you find that deep heart space with your lover, the flow of sexual energy opens you both to a new dimension where the joining of energy and consciousness becomes a microcosm of the Divine Union.
A loving relationship, blissfulness, peace of mind, self-confidence, the ability to focus, being grounded, creativity, health, creating and manifesting the kind of life you want to live become your experience once you have had a glimpse of who you really are. When you have tasted the fruits of this work, your life will never be the same.
For more information, please go to:
http://www.theworldoftantra.com
http://www.theworldoftantra.net
To contact the author, please email:
devi_cloudwalker@hotmail.com
How about none of the above?
Tantra is revealed as a practical and yes, “respectable” yoga that slows the aging process, utilizes sexual energy for health, joy, peace and love. Great sex is a by products of this ancient yoga.
While other yoga and fitness practices focus on the external muscles of the physical body, the emphasis in Tantra is on isolating and exercising the internal muscles, including the muscle of the mind. A wholesome approach to sexuality, tantra yoga can be learned even if you have never done any kind of yoga or exercise in the past. Many of the exercises, dances and meditations are not only fun to do, but serve a deeper purpose.
Over a thousand years ago meditation masters in India and Tibet were practicing this very highly secret tradition called Tantra. Today we merge these secret Eastern techniques along with contemporary Western methods to stimulate the internal organs, invigorate the hormone producing endocrine glands that balance energy for better health, focus and creativity.
Mastering sexual energy is not something learned overnight, or at weekend workshops. There is so much more. Activating sexual energy rejuvenates the body and frees the mind from daily stresses. And sex? You can experience the best sex you have ever had if you commit yourself to doing these meditation practices everyday.
Why? Beyond ecstasy is your Self. When you transcend mind through meditation, your heart opens, and your Soul becomes fully present. Although you may have tasted this blissful place for a moment, tantric discipline enables you to live in this state permanently. When you find that deep heart space with your lover, the flow of sexual energy opens you both to a new dimension where the joining of energy and consciousness becomes a microcosm of the Divine Union.
A loving relationship, blissfulness, peace of mind, self-confidence, the ability to focus, being grounded, creativity, health, creating and manifesting the kind of life you want to live become your experience once you have had a glimpse of who you really are. When you have tasted the fruits of this work, your life will never be the same.
For more information, please go to:
http://www.theworldoftantra.com
http://www.theworldoftantra.net
To contact the author, please email:
devi_cloudwalker@hotmail.com
Friday, December 01, 2006
Making Love Help: How To Give Her The Best Sex Ever
Life is too short to put up with a boring sex life. How to make love or please your partner isn't something that you learn at any school. Your first sex teacher is likely to have been a fellow hormonally challenged teenager who had no idea what she was doing either. Making love is something that most of us only learn about through experience and communication. But what if your partner isn't telling you what she likes and doesn't like?
You make love to your partner often enough and you've been doing it for awhile so you're pretty confident that you know what you're doing. But something is missing. Sex is just one of those things that you do together, like going out for dinner or watching a movie. And its OK. But its not great. Its a routine kind of thing. And while you tell yourself that's OK, a part of you knows that it could be so much more and that the best sex of your life is something you're starting to think you'll never get to experience. What if she is secretly unhappy too but doesn't want to say anything because she doesn't want you to feel like its your fault?
How can you inject some enthusiasm and passion when you make love? Recognizing that your love making isn't all it could be is a great first step. You could talk you her about how she's feeling but if you've got to this stage then its likely that talking about sex isn't something that either of you feel really comfortable with. This is a good opportunity to be proactive and come up with a few solutions yourself.
What is the solution? Here are a few suggestions to get you going:
VarietyIf you've been together awhile then sex can get a bit same old, same old. When you make love try new positions, new locations, new techniques. Surprise her.
Seek Out Sex Help and Find Out What You Don't KnowThere is that saying about how you don't know what you don't know and when it comes to lovemaking we all think we know what to do. But its just not true. Of course, once your eyes have been opened to the possibilities and tips and tricks that are out and really aren't that difficult to master, you'll be amazed at what you thought you knew and how you really had no idea.
Don't Just Lie ThereYou need to take charge and make sure her needs are met and you can't do that if you're lying on your back letting her do all the work. And besides you know you'll have an orgasm but you need to make sure she does and that requires effort. Before you start thinking that is unfair and asking why should you have to do all the work just remember that if she has a great time you'll have a really great time! When you do come, your orgasm will be more intense for having watched and helped her climax.
Seduce HerGuys tend to think that great sex is about what you do with your bodies but its not like that for women. Getting them in the mood for sex is just as important as what happens once you start to make love. Give her compliments (but not just when you're wanting sex!), pay attention to her, listen, and touch. Make touching an important part of the time you spend with each other, show her how much you adore her.
Being committed to improving your lovemaking and your partner's sexual experiences is going to set you on an amazing journey that will bring you closer together and guarantee you the best sex of your life. Are you ready?
You make love to your partner often enough and you've been doing it for awhile so you're pretty confident that you know what you're doing. But something is missing. Sex is just one of those things that you do together, like going out for dinner or watching a movie. And its OK. But its not great. Its a routine kind of thing. And while you tell yourself that's OK, a part of you knows that it could be so much more and that the best sex of your life is something you're starting to think you'll never get to experience. What if she is secretly unhappy too but doesn't want to say anything because she doesn't want you to feel like its your fault?
How can you inject some enthusiasm and passion when you make love? Recognizing that your love making isn't all it could be is a great first step. You could talk you her about how she's feeling but if you've got to this stage then its likely that talking about sex isn't something that either of you feel really comfortable with. This is a good opportunity to be proactive and come up with a few solutions yourself.
What is the solution? Here are a few suggestions to get you going:
VarietyIf you've been together awhile then sex can get a bit same old, same old. When you make love try new positions, new locations, new techniques. Surprise her.
Seek Out Sex Help and Find Out What You Don't KnowThere is that saying about how you don't know what you don't know and when it comes to lovemaking we all think we know what to do. But its just not true. Of course, once your eyes have been opened to the possibilities and tips and tricks that are out and really aren't that difficult to master, you'll be amazed at what you thought you knew and how you really had no idea.
Don't Just Lie ThereYou need to take charge and make sure her needs are met and you can't do that if you're lying on your back letting her do all the work. And besides you know you'll have an orgasm but you need to make sure she does and that requires effort. Before you start thinking that is unfair and asking why should you have to do all the work just remember that if she has a great time you'll have a really great time! When you do come, your orgasm will be more intense for having watched and helped her climax.
Seduce HerGuys tend to think that great sex is about what you do with your bodies but its not like that for women. Getting them in the mood for sex is just as important as what happens once you start to make love. Give her compliments (but not just when you're wanting sex!), pay attention to her, listen, and touch. Make touching an important part of the time you spend with each other, show her how much you adore her.
Being committed to improving your lovemaking and your partner's sexual experiences is going to set you on an amazing journey that will bring you closer together and guarantee you the best sex of your life. Are you ready?
Thursday, November 30, 2006
Relationship Rescue - 5 Ways to Sweeten a Sour Relationship
In relationships you both need to feel special and sexy and appreciated as much as one another, but when you have been in a relationship for a while it’s easy to take one another for granted. The more your partner feels loved, the more loving they will be in return. Here’s five ways to make your partner feel like they are the most important thing in your life – they are, aren’t they?
Pay meaningful compliments
You know how good it feels when your partner notices that you dressed up specially, just for them? They like to feel that good, too. Pay enough attention to what your partner does and says so that when you pay them a compliment, it really means something. Tell him the lawn looks great after he’s spent two hours giving it a trim. Thank her for remembering to record the footie for you.
Listen when they talk.
And that means active listening, not just nodding and saying ‘Uh huh’ once in a while. Ask real questions and then listen to the answers, make it a proper conversation.
Say thank you.
It’s easy to take the things someone does for granted – and after a while, it starts to feel like you’re taking them for granted too. Among the best relationship advice you’ll ever get is to say thank you - often! Thank you for making breakfast. Thank you for taking out the rubbish. Thank you for making me feel so good. One male friend tells me that the one thing his wife does that makes him feel great is – saying thank you after they make love. Which leads us to…
Get physical.
Express your affection physically. Touch your partner a lot. What is your partner’s favourite touch? Try to find opportunities to use it – and not just sexually. The extra hug at the door, a kiss that lasts a few seconds longer than it needs to be – all of those touches help make someone feel extra special.
Surprise them.
Call your partner at lunch just to tell them you can’t wait for them to get home. Take him out for dinner for a change – and pick up the tab yourself. Buy her flowers for no reason at all. Whisper to him that you “Oops! Forgot your knickers in your rush to get dressed for dinner”.
And here’s a bonus just because you read all the way to the end – say the words. Just tell them out loud how sexy, fantastic, intelligent, charming and fun they are. Practice positive communication from the start and you’ll never need relationship rescue.
Chris Norton writes for Armchair Advice. Armchair Advice is a UK website providing specialist job loss and relationship rescue. Whether you require emotional support, financial advice or divorce solicitors, you can find them all at Armchair Advice.
For more information please visit Armchair Advice.
Pay meaningful compliments
You know how good it feels when your partner notices that you dressed up specially, just for them? They like to feel that good, too. Pay enough attention to what your partner does and says so that when you pay them a compliment, it really means something. Tell him the lawn looks great after he’s spent two hours giving it a trim. Thank her for remembering to record the footie for you.
Listen when they talk.
And that means active listening, not just nodding and saying ‘Uh huh’ once in a while. Ask real questions and then listen to the answers, make it a proper conversation.
Say thank you.
It’s easy to take the things someone does for granted – and after a while, it starts to feel like you’re taking them for granted too. Among the best relationship advice you’ll ever get is to say thank you - often! Thank you for making breakfast. Thank you for taking out the rubbish. Thank you for making me feel so good. One male friend tells me that the one thing his wife does that makes him feel great is – saying thank you after they make love. Which leads us to…
Get physical.
Express your affection physically. Touch your partner a lot. What is your partner’s favourite touch? Try to find opportunities to use it – and not just sexually. The extra hug at the door, a kiss that lasts a few seconds longer than it needs to be – all of those touches help make someone feel extra special.
Surprise them.
Call your partner at lunch just to tell them you can’t wait for them to get home. Take him out for dinner for a change – and pick up the tab yourself. Buy her flowers for no reason at all. Whisper to him that you “Oops! Forgot your knickers in your rush to get dressed for dinner”.
And here’s a bonus just because you read all the way to the end – say the words. Just tell them out loud how sexy, fantastic, intelligent, charming and fun they are. Practice positive communication from the start and you’ll never need relationship rescue.
Chris Norton writes for Armchair Advice. Armchair Advice is a UK website providing specialist job loss and relationship rescue. Whether you require emotional support, financial advice or divorce solicitors, you can find them all at Armchair Advice.
For more information please visit Armchair Advice.
6 Great Ways To Improve Your Social Skills
If you are looking for a way to improve your social skills, there are many resources available that will assist you in refining your social skills and improving the way you communicate with others.
It's not only possible to learn how to improve your social
skills; it's easier than you think.
Imagine how much simpler your life would be if you could
rid yourself of nagging self-doubt and have confidence
knowing you can handle any social situation.
Have you ever wondered how some people seem to excel at
socializing? Learning how to improve your social skills
will give you the ability to know what to say in any
situation and be the type of person others love to be
around.
You can develop the skills needed to start a conversation
with anyone you encounter, deal effectively with awkward
situations, accept rejection gracefully, and win the
approval and appreciation of all that you encounter.
You will be able to read the body language of others,
effectively solve problems, and develop the ability to
diffuse sensitive situations with seemingly little effort.
In the process of learning how to improve your social
skills, your self-esteem will soar and your confidence will
reach an all-time high.
Here are 6 great tips you can use today:
1. Awareness of your own interaction with other people is
the first step in improving your social skills.
Learn to identify which types of situations make you
uncomfortable and then modify your behavior to achieve
positive results is a critical step in improving your
social skills.
You can learn to become aware of behaviors in other people
that prompt you to respond in negative ways and modify your
own behavior to turn the situation into a positive
experience.
2. You must accept responsibility for your own behavior and
do not fear apologizing for errors in judgment or
insensitive actions.
Asking others for honest feedback about the way you
interact with others can be very helpful. Accept the
negative feedback along with the positive and make changes
accordingly.
3. Your non-verbal communication is equally as important as
the things that you say. Positive body language is
extremely important in your interactions with other people.
If your words and your actions do not match, you will have
a difficult time succeeding in social situations.
4. In order to learn how to improve your social skills, you
must become and great listener. You must fight the urge to
respond immediately and really listen to what the other
person is trying to communicate.
Offering suggestions or criticism before you are certain of
the other person's intent can only lead to frustration for
both parties.
5. Improving your social skills is a process and cannot be
accomplished overnight. Trying to improve or change too
many things at once will be counter-productive.
You will become discouraged and overwhelmed if you attempt
to change your entire personality all at once. Choose one
or two traits at a time and work on those over a period of
time. Learn to take advantage of your personal strengths
and make a positive impact on others.
6. Maximize your positive personality traits and use them
in your interactions with others. Good communication and
great listening skills are the most important tools you can
use in improving your social skills.
You can learn how to improve your social skills by
developing excellent listening skills, learning to resolve
problems and conflicts, understanding body language, and
accepting responsibility for your own negative behavior.
Determination and self-awareness will make your desire to
improve your social skills a reality.
Peter Murphy is a peak performance expert. He recently produced a very popular free report:10 Simple Steps to Developing Communication Confidence. This report reveals the secret strategies all high achievers use to communicate with charm and impact. Apply now because it is available for a limited time only at: http://www.howtotalkwithconfidence.com/report.htm
It's not only possible to learn how to improve your social
skills; it's easier than you think.
Imagine how much simpler your life would be if you could
rid yourself of nagging self-doubt and have confidence
knowing you can handle any social situation.
Have you ever wondered how some people seem to excel at
socializing? Learning how to improve your social skills
will give you the ability to know what to say in any
situation and be the type of person others love to be
around.
You can develop the skills needed to start a conversation
with anyone you encounter, deal effectively with awkward
situations, accept rejection gracefully, and win the
approval and appreciation of all that you encounter.
You will be able to read the body language of others,
effectively solve problems, and develop the ability to
diffuse sensitive situations with seemingly little effort.
In the process of learning how to improve your social
skills, your self-esteem will soar and your confidence will
reach an all-time high.
Here are 6 great tips you can use today:
1. Awareness of your own interaction with other people is
the first step in improving your social skills.
Learn to identify which types of situations make you
uncomfortable and then modify your behavior to achieve
positive results is a critical step in improving your
social skills.
You can learn to become aware of behaviors in other people
that prompt you to respond in negative ways and modify your
own behavior to turn the situation into a positive
experience.
2. You must accept responsibility for your own behavior and
do not fear apologizing for errors in judgment or
insensitive actions.
Asking others for honest feedback about the way you
interact with others can be very helpful. Accept the
negative feedback along with the positive and make changes
accordingly.
3. Your non-verbal communication is equally as important as
the things that you say. Positive body language is
extremely important in your interactions with other people.
If your words and your actions do not match, you will have
a difficult time succeeding in social situations.
4. In order to learn how to improve your social skills, you
must become and great listener. You must fight the urge to
respond immediately and really listen to what the other
person is trying to communicate.
Offering suggestions or criticism before you are certain of
the other person's intent can only lead to frustration for
both parties.
5. Improving your social skills is a process and cannot be
accomplished overnight. Trying to improve or change too
many things at once will be counter-productive.
You will become discouraged and overwhelmed if you attempt
to change your entire personality all at once. Choose one
or two traits at a time and work on those over a period of
time. Learn to take advantage of your personal strengths
and make a positive impact on others.
6. Maximize your positive personality traits and use them
in your interactions with others. Good communication and
great listening skills are the most important tools you can
use in improving your social skills.
You can learn how to improve your social skills by
developing excellent listening skills, learning to resolve
problems and conflicts, understanding body language, and
accepting responsibility for your own negative behavior.
Determination and self-awareness will make your desire to
improve your social skills a reality.
Peter Murphy is a peak performance expert. He recently produced a very popular free report:10 Simple Steps to Developing Communication Confidence. This report reveals the secret strategies all high achievers use to communicate with charm and impact. Apply now because it is available for a limited time only at: http://www.howtotalkwithconfidence.com/report.htm
Wednesday, November 29, 2006
5 Tips: How To Look Younger Without Botox Or Surgery
Eternal youth. That seems to be what so many beautiful people seem to be searching for. The ability to look unaffected by the passage of time. Wrinkle free faces. The body of a 60 year old that looks like a svelte twenty year old. You see that quite often in Hollywood.
First, there was plastic surgery Now there is botox. Where a toxin is injected into your face to paralyze your facial muscles, to erase the lines on your face.
Scary isn't it? Then again, if you were gorgeous in your youth, if your face were your fortune, wouldn't you do everything possible to preserve your youthful appearance for as long as possible.
Time is relentless. You get older every year. Your face and your body will age. But you can age beautifully. If you keep fit, exercise and watch your diet, your body can still be svelte late in life. It would get harder with time, but with enough discipline and effort, you can still keep your figure.
It is harder when it comes to your skin. Sure, there is botox and plastic surgery. An alternative you can turn to when nothing else works. Until then, there are less invasive, needle free means to erase wrinkles, or at very least to appear younger than you really are.
#1 Microdermabrasion
Have you ever tried clinical microdermabrasion. It is like a facial where the doctor blasts tiny crystals onto your face, to smooth your skin. You have to go for a few treatments but it is effective. Lines diminish. Even acne prone skin improves with this treatment. Best of all, the treatment does not burn your skin with acid and you don't look like an escapee from a horror movie during recovery time.
These days, you can even do that at home. There are even do it yourself microdermabrasion kits you can use in the comfort of your own home.
Other than physically erasing the lines on your face, you can appear younger if you dress, and act younger. An exuberant woman, full of life looks years younger than she actually is. Look at Diane Keaton, born in January 5, 1946 which makes her almost 60 years old. She certainly doesn't look her age. That brings us to the next few tips.
#2 Hairstyle
Rather than stick to a conservative hairstyle, go for a younger, more carefree look. You'll look years younger that way. It can be as simple as a change from a conservative side part to a younger, carefree center part. Or you can visit your hairdresser for a younger makeover.
#3 Fragrance
A young vibe makes you appear younger. A young fragrance makes you seem much younger than you really are. In a study, women who wore scents with pink grapefruit notes appeared, on average, 6 years younger than their actual age according to the men who were surveyed. Details about that can be found at http://www.perfume-online.org/PinkGrapefruitPerfumes.html
#4 Lighting
Finally, the lighting you appear in can make you look older or younger than you really are. In harsh bright, unflattering light, you could look years younger. In soft, gentle, flattering light, you look younger. Everyone looks better by candle light. Installing light dimmers, on every light in your home allows you to look younger at home. http://www.candleslighting.com/light-dimmers.htm explains why.
#5 Makeup
When all else fails, cheat. Use a makeup primer after your moisturizer to fill in all the lines on your face. Then apply makeup in a color that matches your skin tone exactly, over the primer for that flawless look. You might want to mix 2 makeup colors together for that ideal shade.
Here is where you can find home microdermabrasion kits to smooth away the lines and to clarify your skin.
First, there was plastic surgery Now there is botox. Where a toxin is injected into your face to paralyze your facial muscles, to erase the lines on your face.
Scary isn't it? Then again, if you were gorgeous in your youth, if your face were your fortune, wouldn't you do everything possible to preserve your youthful appearance for as long as possible.
Time is relentless. You get older every year. Your face and your body will age. But you can age beautifully. If you keep fit, exercise and watch your diet, your body can still be svelte late in life. It would get harder with time, but with enough discipline and effort, you can still keep your figure.
It is harder when it comes to your skin. Sure, there is botox and plastic surgery. An alternative you can turn to when nothing else works. Until then, there are less invasive, needle free means to erase wrinkles, or at very least to appear younger than you really are.
#1 Microdermabrasion
Have you ever tried clinical microdermabrasion. It is like a facial where the doctor blasts tiny crystals onto your face, to smooth your skin. You have to go for a few treatments but it is effective. Lines diminish. Even acne prone skin improves with this treatment. Best of all, the treatment does not burn your skin with acid and you don't look like an escapee from a horror movie during recovery time.
These days, you can even do that at home. There are even do it yourself microdermabrasion kits you can use in the comfort of your own home.
Other than physically erasing the lines on your face, you can appear younger if you dress, and act younger. An exuberant woman, full of life looks years younger than she actually is. Look at Diane Keaton, born in January 5, 1946 which makes her almost 60 years old. She certainly doesn't look her age. That brings us to the next few tips.
#2 Hairstyle
Rather than stick to a conservative hairstyle, go for a younger, more carefree look. You'll look years younger that way. It can be as simple as a change from a conservative side part to a younger, carefree center part. Or you can visit your hairdresser for a younger makeover.
#3 Fragrance
A young vibe makes you appear younger. A young fragrance makes you seem much younger than you really are. In a study, women who wore scents with pink grapefruit notes appeared, on average, 6 years younger than their actual age according to the men who were surveyed. Details about that can be found at http://www.perfume-online.org/PinkGrapefruitPerfumes.html
#4 Lighting
Finally, the lighting you appear in can make you look older or younger than you really are. In harsh bright, unflattering light, you could look years younger. In soft, gentle, flattering light, you look younger. Everyone looks better by candle light. Installing light dimmers, on every light in your home allows you to look younger at home. http://www.candleslighting.com/light-dimmers.htm explains why.
#5 Makeup
When all else fails, cheat. Use a makeup primer after your moisturizer to fill in all the lines on your face. Then apply makeup in a color that matches your skin tone exactly, over the primer for that flawless look. You might want to mix 2 makeup colors together for that ideal shade.
Here is where you can find home microdermabrasion kits to smooth away the lines and to clarify your skin.
Pregnancy Symptoms and Signs
How can you tell if you are pregnant? There are a number of signs and symptoms to watch for. Chances are you will only experience a portion of the symptoms. Each pregnancy is different, and the same mom to be can experience different pregnancy signs each time she gets pregnant.
Pregnancy symptoms can begin for some mothers immediately after conception. Some pregnancy signs require that you chart your cycle, noting your daily basal body temperature.
Implantation
While a rare minority will experience pregnancy symptoms sooner, typically the first pregnancy signs occur when your baby implants around 8-10 days after ovulation. Implantation causes an increase in progesterone levels, which can lead to higher temperatures giving you a tri-phasic chart. If you temperature remains high for fifteen or more days after ovulation, you may be pregnant. Some women will see a slight temperature drop at implantation. Implantation bleeding sometimes occurs and can be pink, red, or brown in color. You may also have lower abdominal cramps.
Positive Pregnancy Test
The next and best sign that you are pregnant is a positive pregnancy test. Home pregnancy tests measure the pregnancy hormone hCG in your urine. The most sensitive home pregnancy tests will show a positive result when the hCG levels reach 20, which can happen as early as four days before your period is due, or approximately 10 days after ovulation.
False negatives are common when testing early with a home pregnancy test, so I recommend you wait to use one until eighteen days after ovulation to avoid false negatives. The usual recommendation is to wait until 14 days after ovulation before testing. Blood serum pregnancy tests performed by your doctor are much more sensitive. They can detect hCG levels as low as five. If you continue to experience pregnancy symptoms, but your home pregnancy test continues to show negative, you can make an appointment with your doctor to confirm your pregnancy.
Missed Period
One of the most common pregnancy signs is a missed period. For women with a standard 28-day cycle, their period is late if it has not arrived fifteen days after ovulation, or twenty-nine days after the first day of their cycle. Elevated basal body temperatures for 15 or more days will typically accompany the missed period.
Frequent Urination
Frequent urination is a very common early symptom of pregnancy. You may find yourself unable to be away from a bathroom for more than hour at a time, or waking up in the middle of the night to urinate.
Morning Sickness
Morning sickness can begin as early as 2 to 4 weeks after conception. The term morning sickness is something of a misnomer, as you can experience the nausea and vomiting throughout the day. Morning sickness typically is worst during the first trimester, and most pregnant women will have their morning sickness symptoms lessen or subside completely during the second or third trimester.
Breast Changes
Breast tenderness usually begins around 3 to 4 weeks after conception. This can also be a sign of your impending period. Usually the degree of breast tenderness is much stronger with pregnancy than with your period. You may also notice a slight tingling sensation.
Another change to your breasts early in pregnancy is the appearance. Your areolas can become larger and darker.
Fatigue
Fatigue can be an early sign of pregnancy. This symptom is not just being a little tired; it is more like feeling totally wiped out. Your normal daily activities can send you to complete exhaustion.
Body Discomforts
The physical and hormonal changes you experience with pregnancy can cause a long list of body changes that are annoying and uncomfortable. You may experience headaches, backaches, acne, constipation, heartburn, mood swings, constipation, diarrhea, bloating, indigestion, and abdominal cramps.
Food Cravings
Food cravings are a very common pregnancy symptom. Approximately 85% of women will experience some type of food craving during their pregnancy.
Food Aversions
The other side of food cravings is food aversions. They are also a very common sign of early pregnancy. You may find that a favorite food suddenly makes you feel nauseated just thinking about it.
Smell Aversions
A heightened sense of smell may cause some odors to seem stronger than normal when you are pregnant. Some smell aversions can cause food aversions.
Baby Movement
You can feel your baby moving as early as 16 weeks, but for first-time mothers may not feel the baby moving until 20 weeks or more.
Intuition
For some women, they just “feel” pregnant, even though they have had no other signs or symptoms. A mother's intuition is frequently accurate.
It is possible to experience some of the signs and symptoms of pregnancy, yet still not be pregnant. It is important that both you and your baby get under a doctor’s care as early as possible. If you think you might be pregnant, treat your body as if you are pregnant until you know for sure. Take a home pregnancy test if you miss your period. If the test shows positive, then you are pregnant. Congratulations!
Elleth Faewen is a wife who has lost three pregnancies, one to stillbirth, one to miscarriage, and one to an ectopic pregnancy. She founded Baby Talk Zone as a friendly online resource for those pregnant, trying to conceive, and adopting. Elleth is currently on the waiting list for IVF. You can visit her online forum at http://www.babytalkzone.com
Baby Talk Zone provides a free pregnancy due date calculator http://www.babytalkzone.com/duedatecalculator and a free downloadable monthly ovulation cycle chart in both Fahrenheit and Celsius http://www.babytalkzone.com/chart-your-monthly-cycle
Pregnancy symptoms can begin for some mothers immediately after conception. Some pregnancy signs require that you chart your cycle, noting your daily basal body temperature.
Implantation
While a rare minority will experience pregnancy symptoms sooner, typically the first pregnancy signs occur when your baby implants around 8-10 days after ovulation. Implantation causes an increase in progesterone levels, which can lead to higher temperatures giving you a tri-phasic chart. If you temperature remains high for fifteen or more days after ovulation, you may be pregnant. Some women will see a slight temperature drop at implantation. Implantation bleeding sometimes occurs and can be pink, red, or brown in color. You may also have lower abdominal cramps.
Positive Pregnancy Test
The next and best sign that you are pregnant is a positive pregnancy test. Home pregnancy tests measure the pregnancy hormone hCG in your urine. The most sensitive home pregnancy tests will show a positive result when the hCG levels reach 20, which can happen as early as four days before your period is due, or approximately 10 days after ovulation.
False negatives are common when testing early with a home pregnancy test, so I recommend you wait to use one until eighteen days after ovulation to avoid false negatives. The usual recommendation is to wait until 14 days after ovulation before testing. Blood serum pregnancy tests performed by your doctor are much more sensitive. They can detect hCG levels as low as five. If you continue to experience pregnancy symptoms, but your home pregnancy test continues to show negative, you can make an appointment with your doctor to confirm your pregnancy.
Missed Period
One of the most common pregnancy signs is a missed period. For women with a standard 28-day cycle, their period is late if it has not arrived fifteen days after ovulation, or twenty-nine days after the first day of their cycle. Elevated basal body temperatures for 15 or more days will typically accompany the missed period.
Frequent Urination
Frequent urination is a very common early symptom of pregnancy. You may find yourself unable to be away from a bathroom for more than hour at a time, or waking up in the middle of the night to urinate.
Morning Sickness
Morning sickness can begin as early as 2 to 4 weeks after conception. The term morning sickness is something of a misnomer, as you can experience the nausea and vomiting throughout the day. Morning sickness typically is worst during the first trimester, and most pregnant women will have their morning sickness symptoms lessen or subside completely during the second or third trimester.
Breast Changes
Breast tenderness usually begins around 3 to 4 weeks after conception. This can also be a sign of your impending period. Usually the degree of breast tenderness is much stronger with pregnancy than with your period. You may also notice a slight tingling sensation.
Another change to your breasts early in pregnancy is the appearance. Your areolas can become larger and darker.
Fatigue
Fatigue can be an early sign of pregnancy. This symptom is not just being a little tired; it is more like feeling totally wiped out. Your normal daily activities can send you to complete exhaustion.
Body Discomforts
The physical and hormonal changes you experience with pregnancy can cause a long list of body changes that are annoying and uncomfortable. You may experience headaches, backaches, acne, constipation, heartburn, mood swings, constipation, diarrhea, bloating, indigestion, and abdominal cramps.
Food Cravings
Food cravings are a very common pregnancy symptom. Approximately 85% of women will experience some type of food craving during their pregnancy.
Food Aversions
The other side of food cravings is food aversions. They are also a very common sign of early pregnancy. You may find that a favorite food suddenly makes you feel nauseated just thinking about it.
Smell Aversions
A heightened sense of smell may cause some odors to seem stronger than normal when you are pregnant. Some smell aversions can cause food aversions.
Baby Movement
You can feel your baby moving as early as 16 weeks, but for first-time mothers may not feel the baby moving until 20 weeks or more.
Intuition
For some women, they just “feel” pregnant, even though they have had no other signs or symptoms. A mother's intuition is frequently accurate.
It is possible to experience some of the signs and symptoms of pregnancy, yet still not be pregnant. It is important that both you and your baby get under a doctor’s care as early as possible. If you think you might be pregnant, treat your body as if you are pregnant until you know for sure. Take a home pregnancy test if you miss your period. If the test shows positive, then you are pregnant. Congratulations!
Elleth Faewen is a wife who has lost three pregnancies, one to stillbirth, one to miscarriage, and one to an ectopic pregnancy. She founded Baby Talk Zone as a friendly online resource for those pregnant, trying to conceive, and adopting. Elleth is currently on the waiting list for IVF. You can visit her online forum at http://www.babytalkzone.com
Baby Talk Zone provides a free pregnancy due date calculator http://www.babytalkzone.com/duedatecalculator and a free downloadable monthly ovulation cycle chart in both Fahrenheit and Celsius http://www.babytalkzone.com/chart-your-monthly-cycle
Tuesday, November 28, 2006
Free Penis Enlargement Exercises
Alright guys, I decided to let you in on a little preview of what Penis enlargement ( PE ) is all about. I'm going to give you the basic routine that most people do in their first month of PE. I'm pretty sure that you'll be positively surprised at the results and will want to continue or get into the more advanced routines.
Alright well first off, the most important thing to remember is that consistency is key. It's THE MOST important thing to successful PE. You have to be dedicated to the task at hand ( no pun intended ). I've done it both ways, being constant & NOT being constant. Let me tell you, I tell everyone now how much of a difference it makes. Truthfully, when I wasn't consistant, I was more prone to injury, & I lacked gains. But since I've restarted, I haven't missed a day of my preset "pe" days, and it shows.
Most people preach the 3 on 1 off 2 on 1 off. Wich means, you do PE for 3 days then take a day off, then you do 2 days on and another day off. But personally, I went with another type of routine. My routine is more like this: Monday, Tuesday, Thursday, Friday are my "on" days. Wednesday, and the weekend I don't do anything. It's been working great for me. You shouldn't workout everyday, since your penis needs to rebuild itself to get bigger. Not giving it enough time to rebuild itself is just like taking a step forward and two steps back. It'll hurt your results. So even though your in a hurry to make those gains, stick to the days your put as your "on" days and ONLY those days.
Alright, now for the first technique. It's called the PC flex. It's probably one of the more helpfull exercises in PE since it's the exercise that gives you those rock-hard erections. These exercises train, well, your PC muscle. What muscle is that? Well have you ever stopped been peeing and stopped so you could hear what your drunk friend was saying outside the door, or just stopped peing in the middle of the act? Well the PC was responsible for that. So do what you did to stop your flow, come on, do it now...You should feel a squeeze from under your package and in front of your anus. That's where the PC is, and you just basically did a PC flex! Now how easy was that?! So now, since your just starting, your PC needs to become stronger, and we do that one step at a time.
Alright, here's what you do: Do these flexes for 5 min during your first week. You can do them whenever, wherever you like. I do them sitting at work in front of my computer. You don't need to have a hard-on to do these. After that first week, raise it to 10min; 3rd week, 20 min & 4th week, 30 min. From now on you don't need to add any more minutes. Always do 30min from now on. I used to do them for an hour, but I developped back pains, but now, no pain, all gain. Only do PC flexes on your on days, it also needs rest to become stronger. In no time, you'll have hard as hell erections, and you could learn to control your ejaculations. Wich is something for another article all-together. Doing ONLY this exercise could give you gains in your girth from the increased bloodflow. Not alot tough, since you need to do other exercises to stretch to allow more blood in and create more places for blood to go in.
The second exercise is the basis of all the lenght exercises, the Long Schlong. This is pretty easy to do. Just grab your penis under the head with an ok grip. An ok grip is just making an "O" with your thumb and index finger. So do that and stretch in front of you and hold it there for 15 secs. After that massage. Now repeat this for every direction: Up,Down,Left,Right,Straight out. Make sure you massage in between every rep. Do 4 sets in all directions. Don't pull too hard until you feel pain though, you should only pull until you feel a good stretch. We don't want you to go injuring your favorite member now do we? Oh and if your having a hard time getting a good grip on your soldier, I use toilet paper. If you can find something softer wich still gives you a good grip, then go for it. I've even heard of people using boxers. Even though I can't see how well that can work... You may start to get an erection since it's your first time. It can be annoying, but don't sweat it, it's happenned to EVERYONE. Just give it time and that'll go away.
Next up, the basis of all PE, the Jelq. This is mainly go girth, you'll be using this pretty much throughout your PE journey.
For this exercise you should use lubrication. Preferably water based. Baby oil is a popular choice. I myself use Stives moisturizer but might switch to baby oil after my supply runs out. You'll be using lubrication for most of your girth work, so you should get some before you start. And Baby oil doesn't look as bad as buying Vaseline wich is part of alot of jokes. You should always do your girth exercises after your stretching exercises for this reason, since you'll probably have a hard time grabbing your head and getting a good grip if it's lubricated. Now, for the exercise, first off, get yourself an 80% erection. I usually know I'm at around 80% when I'm hard but I can still bend it pretty easily. Once you've got that taken care of, make an ok grip at the base and slide it up towards the head. This should take about 2-3 secs. Make sure your pushing the blood and not just the skin. Now when your up at the head, switch hands and start again. Do 25 of these in your first week. Then, each week, add another set of 25. Continue like this until you reach 200 jelqs, wich should be around the end of your second month. Remember to always massage after each set. This'll help prevent injury.
The last important thing to talk about is the Warm up and Warm down. For the warm up, before you start the Long Schlong, take a hot towel and wrap it on your penis for about 3 mins. It's that simple. For the warm down, you can either do the warm towel again, or you can do what I do and take a bath or a shower. They all work. Some have developped fancier ways to warm up. But I'm a fan of the KISS way of fà doing things: Keep It Simple Stupid.
And there you go! Those are the basic exercises that most people do in their first month of Penis enlargement. Now go start so you can marvel at the effects of these techniques.
More penis enlargement tips are available on thebestmanyoucanbe.com.
Alright well first off, the most important thing to remember is that consistency is key. It's THE MOST important thing to successful PE. You have to be dedicated to the task at hand ( no pun intended ). I've done it both ways, being constant & NOT being constant. Let me tell you, I tell everyone now how much of a difference it makes. Truthfully, when I wasn't consistant, I was more prone to injury, & I lacked gains. But since I've restarted, I haven't missed a day of my preset "pe" days, and it shows.
Most people preach the 3 on 1 off 2 on 1 off. Wich means, you do PE for 3 days then take a day off, then you do 2 days on and another day off. But personally, I went with another type of routine. My routine is more like this: Monday, Tuesday, Thursday, Friday are my "on" days. Wednesday, and the weekend I don't do anything. It's been working great for me. You shouldn't workout everyday, since your penis needs to rebuild itself to get bigger. Not giving it enough time to rebuild itself is just like taking a step forward and two steps back. It'll hurt your results. So even though your in a hurry to make those gains, stick to the days your put as your "on" days and ONLY those days.
Alright, now for the first technique. It's called the PC flex. It's probably one of the more helpfull exercises in PE since it's the exercise that gives you those rock-hard erections. These exercises train, well, your PC muscle. What muscle is that? Well have you ever stopped been peeing and stopped so you could hear what your drunk friend was saying outside the door, or just stopped peing in the middle of the act? Well the PC was responsible for that. So do what you did to stop your flow, come on, do it now...You should feel a squeeze from under your package and in front of your anus. That's where the PC is, and you just basically did a PC flex! Now how easy was that?! So now, since your just starting, your PC needs to become stronger, and we do that one step at a time.
Alright, here's what you do: Do these flexes for 5 min during your first week. You can do them whenever, wherever you like. I do them sitting at work in front of my computer. You don't need to have a hard-on to do these. After that first week, raise it to 10min; 3rd week, 20 min & 4th week, 30 min. From now on you don't need to add any more minutes. Always do 30min from now on. I used to do them for an hour, but I developped back pains, but now, no pain, all gain. Only do PC flexes on your on days, it also needs rest to become stronger. In no time, you'll have hard as hell erections, and you could learn to control your ejaculations. Wich is something for another article all-together. Doing ONLY this exercise could give you gains in your girth from the increased bloodflow. Not alot tough, since you need to do other exercises to stretch to allow more blood in and create more places for blood to go in.
The second exercise is the basis of all the lenght exercises, the Long Schlong. This is pretty easy to do. Just grab your penis under the head with an ok grip. An ok grip is just making an "O" with your thumb and index finger. So do that and stretch in front of you and hold it there for 15 secs. After that massage. Now repeat this for every direction: Up,Down,Left,Right,Straight out. Make sure you massage in between every rep. Do 4 sets in all directions. Don't pull too hard until you feel pain though, you should only pull until you feel a good stretch. We don't want you to go injuring your favorite member now do we? Oh and if your having a hard time getting a good grip on your soldier, I use toilet paper. If you can find something softer wich still gives you a good grip, then go for it. I've even heard of people using boxers. Even though I can't see how well that can work... You may start to get an erection since it's your first time. It can be annoying, but don't sweat it, it's happenned to EVERYONE. Just give it time and that'll go away.
Next up, the basis of all PE, the Jelq. This is mainly go girth, you'll be using this pretty much throughout your PE journey.
For this exercise you should use lubrication. Preferably water based. Baby oil is a popular choice. I myself use Stives moisturizer but might switch to baby oil after my supply runs out. You'll be using lubrication for most of your girth work, so you should get some before you start. And Baby oil doesn't look as bad as buying Vaseline wich is part of alot of jokes. You should always do your girth exercises after your stretching exercises for this reason, since you'll probably have a hard time grabbing your head and getting a good grip if it's lubricated. Now, for the exercise, first off, get yourself an 80% erection. I usually know I'm at around 80% when I'm hard but I can still bend it pretty easily. Once you've got that taken care of, make an ok grip at the base and slide it up towards the head. This should take about 2-3 secs. Make sure your pushing the blood and not just the skin. Now when your up at the head, switch hands and start again. Do 25 of these in your first week. Then, each week, add another set of 25. Continue like this until you reach 200 jelqs, wich should be around the end of your second month. Remember to always massage after each set. This'll help prevent injury.
The last important thing to talk about is the Warm up and Warm down. For the warm up, before you start the Long Schlong, take a hot towel and wrap it on your penis for about 3 mins. It's that simple. For the warm down, you can either do the warm towel again, or you can do what I do and take a bath or a shower. They all work. Some have developped fancier ways to warm up. But I'm a fan of the KISS way of fà doing things: Keep It Simple Stupid.
And there you go! Those are the basic exercises that most people do in their first month of Penis enlargement. Now go start so you can marvel at the effects of these techniques.
More penis enlargement tips are available on thebestmanyoucanbe.com.
Marriage Seperation - A Practical Guide
Finance in marriage seperation is a very big issue particularly with regards to the mortgage and household bills. When marriage seperation is inevitable obviously both parties need somewhere to stay and often it can be quite difficult to sell one property and then try to finance two. Some couples agree to keep the existing property going and one partner move out into rented accommodation for a trial marriage seperation period. This then gives each partner time to reflect and decide what may be better for both parties. However, both parties in marriage seperation have to live and are sometimes eligible for single parent help should they have children. This, together with child maintenance, could help with their financial situation considerably.
Marriage seperation can be a lonely one as you may not get asked to dinner parties and get togethers from your existing circle of friends who are still married. People intend to invite couples to join couples and have a good time. They sometimes forget that friends, whether together in marriage or not, should still be friends and it often helps to keep them in the same circle of friends even in marriage seperation. After all we are all human and need all the friends we have especially at the beginning of a marriage seperation. True friends will always want to help you at a time like this when your morale is low and you need motivation.
It is also helpful to meet new people who are in the same situation as yourself. They will understand what you are going through and it may help you too to get things off your chest. You never know, you may even gain a complete new circle of friends. There are so many meeting points for people on their own. Dinner dates, luncheons and breakfast clubs operate throughout the country so meeting new people, where for friendship or a new prospective partner could be a step in the right direction to get you motivated and get you out of a rut.
Of course marriage seperation for the older person tends to be much harder a you tend to think that most people by now have found their ideal partner and that there do not seem to be many older people looking for companionship or a stable relationship. Again, clubs and groups of all ages operate in most areas. Obviously you will be more cautious next time around as you have already been hurt in the past. But you now have more experience behind you and know what to look for in the future whether it be friendship or a more permanent relationship.
Marriage seperation is hard work but once you come to terms with what has happened in your life you should be able to build a new life for yourself and look forward to new and rewarding challenges that come along. Marriage seperation can and will be stressful at times but keep your head above water and you will begin to see positive results arise in your future. Concentrate on being positive in the future and you will reap the rewards that await you. Everything comes to those who wait.
Jenny Clair is the editor of Marriage-Divorce-Separation.com an article based web site exploring the human side of marriage breakdowns, divorce and separation situations.
http://www.marriage-divorce-separation.com
Marriage seperation can be a lonely one as you may not get asked to dinner parties and get togethers from your existing circle of friends who are still married. People intend to invite couples to join couples and have a good time. They sometimes forget that friends, whether together in marriage or not, should still be friends and it often helps to keep them in the same circle of friends even in marriage seperation. After all we are all human and need all the friends we have especially at the beginning of a marriage seperation. True friends will always want to help you at a time like this when your morale is low and you need motivation.
It is also helpful to meet new people who are in the same situation as yourself. They will understand what you are going through and it may help you too to get things off your chest. You never know, you may even gain a complete new circle of friends. There are so many meeting points for people on their own. Dinner dates, luncheons and breakfast clubs operate throughout the country so meeting new people, where for friendship or a new prospective partner could be a step in the right direction to get you motivated and get you out of a rut.
Of course marriage seperation for the older person tends to be much harder a you tend to think that most people by now have found their ideal partner and that there do not seem to be many older people looking for companionship or a stable relationship. Again, clubs and groups of all ages operate in most areas. Obviously you will be more cautious next time around as you have already been hurt in the past. But you now have more experience behind you and know what to look for in the future whether it be friendship or a more permanent relationship.
Marriage seperation is hard work but once you come to terms with what has happened in your life you should be able to build a new life for yourself and look forward to new and rewarding challenges that come along. Marriage seperation can and will be stressful at times but keep your head above water and you will begin to see positive results arise in your future. Concentrate on being positive in the future and you will reap the rewards that await you. Everything comes to those who wait.
Jenny Clair is the editor of Marriage-Divorce-Separation.com an article based web site exploring the human side of marriage breakdowns, divorce and separation situations.
http://www.marriage-divorce-separation.com
Monday, November 27, 2006
Secrets Your Husband/Significant Other Don't Want You to Know
1. He Only Pretends Not to Listen.
He heard what you said. He’s just not interested in hearing it at the moment. Don’t try to give your man instructions or talk about your feelings when he’s watching TV (especially sports), eating, reading, or has just come home from work. He will only be half listening. His mind is on other things like: will his team win, his day at work, how hungry he is, etc. He can only pay attention to one thing at a time. If he lets you think that he is giving you his full attention, and then you will want to talk to him at these inappropriate moments all the time. If he gives you a detailed response, you’ll just continue to talk. If he completely ignores you, you’ll get mad. If he pretends that he is listening, you will be content and walk away.
2. He Does Look at Other Women.
Not because he wants to cheat, but because men are visually stimulated. Getting mad at him for looking is just going to make him sneak a peek. Hey, it’s just a passing glance. It’s not like we don’t check guys out too!
3. He Needs Time Away From You.
Men need time to reflect, socialize and just get away from it all. Men like the time to regroup. It doesn’t mean that they don’t want to be with us, it is just an escape to appreciate what they have at home. So lighten up, while he’s out of the house, take the kids out or get a babysitter and go something you enjoy.
4. He Doesn’t Feel Like Being Bothered Sometimes
You’ve probably asked him to do something several times, but yet he still doesn’t do it in a timely manner. In frustration, you do it yourself. What is he thinking, “Thank Goodness!” Men do things at their own pace. You can ask your man to take out the trash and 3 hours later, it’s still there. Technically, he still has time to take out the trash. In his mind, the trash isn’t going anywhere anytime soon, and if you do it yourself, that just makes it better for him.
5. He Really Enjoys Gossip
If your man overhears you gossiping on the phone, he’ll probably shake his head in disapproval. However, if he talks about Joe and Margaret, his co workers who are having an affair, it’s not gossip. Actually men enjoy to gossip. They just have a different name for it “Commenting.”
6. Yes, He Was Thinking About Sex
Your man has a far away look in his eyes. He seems distant. He was thinking about sex. He can’t help it, he thinks about it several times a day. Wouldn’t you prefer that he thinks about it several times a day rather than having sex several times a day?
7. When His Voice Goes High, or He Answers a Question With the Same Question, He’s Thinking of a Lie.
If you ask your man, “What You’d Do Today?’ and he replies “What I’d Do Today?” he’s probably thinking of lie. It doesn’t mean that he did something inappropriate, just something you wouldn’t approve of. Maybe, he left work early to hang out with the guys. If he told you this, you’d be upset because you had a long day at work or at home with the kids. The problem is he was having too much fun to think about if you would ask him that question, so he didn’t plan a lie beforehand.
8. Nothing is Wrong, So Stop Asking Him
Admit it, you see your man sitting quietly and you naturally assume something is wrong or has happened. So you ask, “What’s wrong?” and he replies, “Nothing, I’m just thinking.” Well, this answer doesn’t satisfy you, so you ask again throughout the day, which leads to his frustration. Men reflect too! He was probably thinking about how he wants to change careers, if you are satisfied and happy with him, how he can make more money, how he doesn’t want to grow old and fat, or how he would really like to buy that sports car. Ask him once, and then leave it alone. If you really sense something is wrong, give him some time and talk to him when you both feel like talking.
9. Most Men are Conquerors and Most Women are Venters
You just told him about your horrible experience at work. You want him to comfort and console you; instead he gives you logical facts about how to solve the problem. You feel cheated. You wanted to share your feelings about the day and all he wanted to do was fix the problem. Men like to offer solutions. Most men are not concerned about being in touch with their feelings when there’s a conflict. You want to feel understood; he wants to make the problem go away. He can’t relate to how you are feeling, so he does what he knows best, helps you to plan a solution.
10. He Wants to Feel Successful.
A man needs to feel he has accomplished something in life, and often times that accomplishment is found in their jobs or careers. Men don’t like to feel conflicted between work and quality time with their families. To men, if they are working hard to earn money, this will improve the quality of their family’s life.
Marie Magdala Roker is a Personal Development Coach an Author of Successful Thinking for a Successful Life: How to Banish the Unhealthy Thoughts and Habits That Limit Your Success. Her Successful Thinking™ program is an affordable coaching resource that offers support and encouragement when there are roadblocks to success. You can find out more about the program at http://www.thinkandbesuccessful.com or sign up for her free Be Inspired newsletter at http://www.smartbeecoaching.com
He heard what you said. He’s just not interested in hearing it at the moment. Don’t try to give your man instructions or talk about your feelings when he’s watching TV (especially sports), eating, reading, or has just come home from work. He will only be half listening. His mind is on other things like: will his team win, his day at work, how hungry he is, etc. He can only pay attention to one thing at a time. If he lets you think that he is giving you his full attention, and then you will want to talk to him at these inappropriate moments all the time. If he gives you a detailed response, you’ll just continue to talk. If he completely ignores you, you’ll get mad. If he pretends that he is listening, you will be content and walk away.
2. He Does Look at Other Women.
Not because he wants to cheat, but because men are visually stimulated. Getting mad at him for looking is just going to make him sneak a peek. Hey, it’s just a passing glance. It’s not like we don’t check guys out too!
3. He Needs Time Away From You.
Men need time to reflect, socialize and just get away from it all. Men like the time to regroup. It doesn’t mean that they don’t want to be with us, it is just an escape to appreciate what they have at home. So lighten up, while he’s out of the house, take the kids out or get a babysitter and go something you enjoy.
4. He Doesn’t Feel Like Being Bothered Sometimes
You’ve probably asked him to do something several times, but yet he still doesn’t do it in a timely manner. In frustration, you do it yourself. What is he thinking, “Thank Goodness!” Men do things at their own pace. You can ask your man to take out the trash and 3 hours later, it’s still there. Technically, he still has time to take out the trash. In his mind, the trash isn’t going anywhere anytime soon, and if you do it yourself, that just makes it better for him.
5. He Really Enjoys Gossip
If your man overhears you gossiping on the phone, he’ll probably shake his head in disapproval. However, if he talks about Joe and Margaret, his co workers who are having an affair, it’s not gossip. Actually men enjoy to gossip. They just have a different name for it “Commenting.”
6. Yes, He Was Thinking About Sex
Your man has a far away look in his eyes. He seems distant. He was thinking about sex. He can’t help it, he thinks about it several times a day. Wouldn’t you prefer that he thinks about it several times a day rather than having sex several times a day?
7. When His Voice Goes High, or He Answers a Question With the Same Question, He’s Thinking of a Lie.
If you ask your man, “What You’d Do Today?’ and he replies “What I’d Do Today?” he’s probably thinking of lie. It doesn’t mean that he did something inappropriate, just something you wouldn’t approve of. Maybe, he left work early to hang out with the guys. If he told you this, you’d be upset because you had a long day at work or at home with the kids. The problem is he was having too much fun to think about if you would ask him that question, so he didn’t plan a lie beforehand.
8. Nothing is Wrong, So Stop Asking Him
Admit it, you see your man sitting quietly and you naturally assume something is wrong or has happened. So you ask, “What’s wrong?” and he replies, “Nothing, I’m just thinking.” Well, this answer doesn’t satisfy you, so you ask again throughout the day, which leads to his frustration. Men reflect too! He was probably thinking about how he wants to change careers, if you are satisfied and happy with him, how he can make more money, how he doesn’t want to grow old and fat, or how he would really like to buy that sports car. Ask him once, and then leave it alone. If you really sense something is wrong, give him some time and talk to him when you both feel like talking.
9. Most Men are Conquerors and Most Women are Venters
You just told him about your horrible experience at work. You want him to comfort and console you; instead he gives you logical facts about how to solve the problem. You feel cheated. You wanted to share your feelings about the day and all he wanted to do was fix the problem. Men like to offer solutions. Most men are not concerned about being in touch with their feelings when there’s a conflict. You want to feel understood; he wants to make the problem go away. He can’t relate to how you are feeling, so he does what he knows best, helps you to plan a solution.
10. He Wants to Feel Successful.
A man needs to feel he has accomplished something in life, and often times that accomplishment is found in their jobs or careers. Men don’t like to feel conflicted between work and quality time with their families. To men, if they are working hard to earn money, this will improve the quality of their family’s life.
Marie Magdala Roker is a Personal Development Coach an Author of Successful Thinking for a Successful Life: How to Banish the Unhealthy Thoughts and Habits That Limit Your Success. Her Successful Thinking™ program is an affordable coaching resource that offers support and encouragement when there are roadblocks to success. You can find out more about the program at http://www.thinkandbesuccessful.com or sign up for her free Be Inspired newsletter at http://www.smartbeecoaching.com
The Power of Giving Unconditional Love
“You can’t give love to someone else without knowing how to give yourself love first.” ~Tristan Loo
According to humanistic psychology, human beings have an inner need and desire to give and receive high quality love. Love is the glue that holds together human society and without it our lives have little meaning or purpose. In fact, our need to give high quality love to others drives us towards behaviors that would otherwise be considered insane, such as mother rushing into a raging fire to save her child or a father working night and day at a job he hates in order to provide sustenance for his family. Modern Western society has focused quite a bit of attention on how to attract, possess, and maintain love in one’s own life, but it often misses the main secret of attracting love—that if you give love unconditionally from the heart, you will get love back in abundance from the unlimited supply the universe holds.
What is Unconditional Love?
Before we define what unconditional love is, we should first clarify what love means in the context of this article. Genuine love for another person simply means the continual desire and the act of increasing the level of happiness in another person’s life. It’s important that we understand exactly what unconditional love is so that we can know exactly how to express it completely to ourselves and towards others, as well as fully appreciating it when it is offered to us by others. Unconditional love is the ability to accept, respect, and care for yourself and others without any conditions, limitations or reservations attached to that love. Unconditional love is the practice of giving of love to others without demanding that they perform behaviors that you desire. This kind of love is best portrayed by the love between a mother and her child. Unconditional love has little to do with romance, friendships or relationships and more to do with an abundance of love for yourself which flows out from your body and attracts good things and people into your life like a magnet.
When describing unconditional love towards yourself, it means the pure acceptance of everything that is you, including all your flaws and weaknesses. Really this is the basis of unconditional love because love in its true form cannot be shared or given to someone else until you love and accept yourself first. There are no boundaries or limits on love that is unconditional. You are not trying to control the actions or behaviors of the other person, nor do you impose conditions on your love by restricting that love if they behave or don’t behave a certain way. Unconditional love is the ability to want what’s best for others in their pursuit of universal happiness, irregardless of your own opinions and biases of them or their behavior. Unconditional love is an overflow of positive energy that comes from the complete love that you have for yourself so no matter what the other person’s says or does; it will not affect your level of happiness.
The Benefits of Unconditional Love
The practice of giving unconditional love requires by its very nature that you don’t expect anything directly in return for giving it to others. By providing unconditional love to others, you are expressing your faith that good things will be drawn into your life through the law of attraction. Here are some benefits of giving unconditional love:
• The act of giving unconditional love to others eliminates the fear of anger and reprisal from other people for any behavior you do. It also facilitates open and honest relationships with other people.
• In a more spiritual sense, sharing your love unconditionally with the world sends out positive energy which will be returned to you in one form or another to create great abundance, wealth, and goodness that you deserve in your own life.
• When you provide unconditional love to others, you are not dependant on others for happiness, but rather you derive your happiness from within. Your energy radiates to those around you and the world gives back to you in abundance.
• When you give love unconditionally, then you can’t be ever angry at anyone. All human minds need congruency of thought and it’s simply impossible to hate another person if you have made the conscious decision that you are going to love them unconditionally.
• By giving unconditional love to others, you side-step any tricks, emotional ploys, and unfair negotiating tactics because you have consciously choses to take responsibility for giving them love from own heart despite the behaviors that they exhibit.
Happiness Comes from Within
Those people who try to find their love and happiness in the possessions, places or people they have in their life are destined to be miserable in life because they fail to understand that true happiness can only be found within themselves. Everlasting joy, happiness and love all come from falling in love with yourself. The people, places and things that you attract into your life that make you happy only serve to enhance the love that you already have for yourself. They can never replace that inner love. If you want to practice giving unconditional love, then the first person you must show true love to first is yourself. Love yourself for the person that you are, which includes all your flaws as well as your strengths.
How to Practice Giving Unconditional Love
To practice unconditional love is simple, yet you must make a conscious decision to act on accordingly. You must first make the conscious decision that no matter what the other person thinks, says or does, you are going to provide them with the same amount of love that you would if they treated you like royalty. More importantly, you make the firm commitment that you are going to provide them with unconditional love freely and without harboring any negative intentions.
• Unconditionally love yourself first. The first person that you need to show unconditional love to first is yourself. After all, you are married to yourself for the rest of your life, whether you like it or not. Learn to love everything about you because even your flaws make you unique and special. Once you fall in love with yourself, then the world opens up in abundance to your life.
• Don’t use “if-then” clauses with your love. The use of “if-then” clauses makes the love conditional, even if you only say it inside your own mind. For example, “If you treat me well, then I will show you affection.” Unconditional love exists without any “if-then” statements.
• Write what you love about yourself. In your journal or on a piece of paper, write 15 qualities that you love about yourself. This will help you visualize and memorize all the great qualities that you possess. After you finish writing those qualities down, repeat them out loud to yourself
• Unconditional love is not automatic. Always remember that unconditional love is something that you must decide to give, not something that is automatically given. It requires practice to give love to those that you don’t like and to accept everyone for who they are, regardless of your opinions about them.
• Don’t give love with expectation in mind. If you expect something back in return for your love, then that makes the love you give conditional in nature. Instead, have the faith to believe that what you put out there in the world will eventually come back to you, but don’t expect it at that very moment to be returned.
• Repeat it in your mind. If you get upset at yourself or another person, then immediately begin to say over and over in your mind, “I love [Person] unconditionally, no matter what they say or do.” Your mind cannot hate a person and love them at the same time because it is not congruent thinking, so it immediately removes much of the anger and hatred that builds inside of you if you repeat statements of love in your mind.
• Write it down. If any negative thoughts enter your mind about yourself or another person in your life, then destroy those thoughts with the power of writing. In your journal or on a piece of paper, write 15 things that you love about the other person and after you are done, repeat it out loud. This cancels out your negative thoughts of the person and it sows the seeds of unconditional love for that person in your subconscious mind.
Conclusion
When you fall in love with yourself, you give yourself the ultimate power to pick up the pen and begin to write your own book rather than having other people write it for you. You are able to tap into the unlimited potential that is within you. It’s like a spark that ignites your heart and that passion spreads to your mind and your body. Everything in life becomes crystal clear. When you fall in love with yourself, the world opens up to you in abundance.
© Copyright 2006 by Tristan Loo.
For over 10 years, Tristan Loo has inspired, motivated, and brought success to the lives of the countless people he’s touched. Successful in his own right, Tristan has competed athletically against Olympians as a world-class gymnast, saved lives as a police officer, authored numerous Personal Development and Interpersonal Communication books and articles, and is a highly sought-after Peak Performance Coach. Tristan is the founder of the Synergy Institute, a San Diego based Personal Development Firm. His philosophy of passionate living and helping others fulfill their dreams and goals has continually been the driving force that has placed him well above the industry standard. Visit Tristan's website at http://www.synergyinstituteonline.com or by email at info@synergyinstituteonline.com
According to humanistic psychology, human beings have an inner need and desire to give and receive high quality love. Love is the glue that holds together human society and without it our lives have little meaning or purpose. In fact, our need to give high quality love to others drives us towards behaviors that would otherwise be considered insane, such as mother rushing into a raging fire to save her child or a father working night and day at a job he hates in order to provide sustenance for his family. Modern Western society has focused quite a bit of attention on how to attract, possess, and maintain love in one’s own life, but it often misses the main secret of attracting love—that if you give love unconditionally from the heart, you will get love back in abundance from the unlimited supply the universe holds.
What is Unconditional Love?
Before we define what unconditional love is, we should first clarify what love means in the context of this article. Genuine love for another person simply means the continual desire and the act of increasing the level of happiness in another person’s life. It’s important that we understand exactly what unconditional love is so that we can know exactly how to express it completely to ourselves and towards others, as well as fully appreciating it when it is offered to us by others. Unconditional love is the ability to accept, respect, and care for yourself and others without any conditions, limitations or reservations attached to that love. Unconditional love is the practice of giving of love to others without demanding that they perform behaviors that you desire. This kind of love is best portrayed by the love between a mother and her child. Unconditional love has little to do with romance, friendships or relationships and more to do with an abundance of love for yourself which flows out from your body and attracts good things and people into your life like a magnet.
When describing unconditional love towards yourself, it means the pure acceptance of everything that is you, including all your flaws and weaknesses. Really this is the basis of unconditional love because love in its true form cannot be shared or given to someone else until you love and accept yourself first. There are no boundaries or limits on love that is unconditional. You are not trying to control the actions or behaviors of the other person, nor do you impose conditions on your love by restricting that love if they behave or don’t behave a certain way. Unconditional love is the ability to want what’s best for others in their pursuit of universal happiness, irregardless of your own opinions and biases of them or their behavior. Unconditional love is an overflow of positive energy that comes from the complete love that you have for yourself so no matter what the other person’s says or does; it will not affect your level of happiness.
The Benefits of Unconditional Love
The practice of giving unconditional love requires by its very nature that you don’t expect anything directly in return for giving it to others. By providing unconditional love to others, you are expressing your faith that good things will be drawn into your life through the law of attraction. Here are some benefits of giving unconditional love:
• The act of giving unconditional love to others eliminates the fear of anger and reprisal from other people for any behavior you do. It also facilitates open and honest relationships with other people.
• In a more spiritual sense, sharing your love unconditionally with the world sends out positive energy which will be returned to you in one form or another to create great abundance, wealth, and goodness that you deserve in your own life.
• When you provide unconditional love to others, you are not dependant on others for happiness, but rather you derive your happiness from within. Your energy radiates to those around you and the world gives back to you in abundance.
• When you give love unconditionally, then you can’t be ever angry at anyone. All human minds need congruency of thought and it’s simply impossible to hate another person if you have made the conscious decision that you are going to love them unconditionally.
• By giving unconditional love to others, you side-step any tricks, emotional ploys, and unfair negotiating tactics because you have consciously choses to take responsibility for giving them love from own heart despite the behaviors that they exhibit.
Happiness Comes from Within
Those people who try to find their love and happiness in the possessions, places or people they have in their life are destined to be miserable in life because they fail to understand that true happiness can only be found within themselves. Everlasting joy, happiness and love all come from falling in love with yourself. The people, places and things that you attract into your life that make you happy only serve to enhance the love that you already have for yourself. They can never replace that inner love. If you want to practice giving unconditional love, then the first person you must show true love to first is yourself. Love yourself for the person that you are, which includes all your flaws as well as your strengths.
How to Practice Giving Unconditional Love
To practice unconditional love is simple, yet you must make a conscious decision to act on accordingly. You must first make the conscious decision that no matter what the other person thinks, says or does, you are going to provide them with the same amount of love that you would if they treated you like royalty. More importantly, you make the firm commitment that you are going to provide them with unconditional love freely and without harboring any negative intentions.
• Unconditionally love yourself first. The first person that you need to show unconditional love to first is yourself. After all, you are married to yourself for the rest of your life, whether you like it or not. Learn to love everything about you because even your flaws make you unique and special. Once you fall in love with yourself, then the world opens up in abundance to your life.
• Don’t use “if-then” clauses with your love. The use of “if-then” clauses makes the love conditional, even if you only say it inside your own mind. For example, “If you treat me well, then I will show you affection.” Unconditional love exists without any “if-then” statements.
• Write what you love about yourself. In your journal or on a piece of paper, write 15 qualities that you love about yourself. This will help you visualize and memorize all the great qualities that you possess. After you finish writing those qualities down, repeat them out loud to yourself
• Unconditional love is not automatic. Always remember that unconditional love is something that you must decide to give, not something that is automatically given. It requires practice to give love to those that you don’t like and to accept everyone for who they are, regardless of your opinions about them.
• Don’t give love with expectation in mind. If you expect something back in return for your love, then that makes the love you give conditional in nature. Instead, have the faith to believe that what you put out there in the world will eventually come back to you, but don’t expect it at that very moment to be returned.
• Repeat it in your mind. If you get upset at yourself or another person, then immediately begin to say over and over in your mind, “I love [Person] unconditionally, no matter what they say or do.” Your mind cannot hate a person and love them at the same time because it is not congruent thinking, so it immediately removes much of the anger and hatred that builds inside of you if you repeat statements of love in your mind.
• Write it down. If any negative thoughts enter your mind about yourself or another person in your life, then destroy those thoughts with the power of writing. In your journal or on a piece of paper, write 15 things that you love about the other person and after you are done, repeat it out loud. This cancels out your negative thoughts of the person and it sows the seeds of unconditional love for that person in your subconscious mind.
Conclusion
When you fall in love with yourself, you give yourself the ultimate power to pick up the pen and begin to write your own book rather than having other people write it for you. You are able to tap into the unlimited potential that is within you. It’s like a spark that ignites your heart and that passion spreads to your mind and your body. Everything in life becomes crystal clear. When you fall in love with yourself, the world opens up to you in abundance.
© Copyright 2006 by Tristan Loo.
For over 10 years, Tristan Loo has inspired, motivated, and brought success to the lives of the countless people he’s touched. Successful in his own right, Tristan has competed athletically against Olympians as a world-class gymnast, saved lives as a police officer, authored numerous Personal Development and Interpersonal Communication books and articles, and is a highly sought-after Peak Performance Coach. Tristan is the founder of the Synergy Institute, a San Diego based Personal Development Firm. His philosophy of passionate living and helping others fulfill their dreams and goals has continually been the driving force that has placed him well above the industry standard. Visit Tristan's website at http://www.synergyinstituteonline.com or by email at info@synergyinstituteonline.com
Sunday, November 26, 2006
How to Flirt With Women Using the Power of Positive Body Language
Learning how to flirt is probably the best skill you can learn to attract women. By understanding proper flirting techniques, you will be able to build rapport with a girl and demonstrate your sexuality in a nonverbal way. Done correctly, you will be able to make her instantly attracted to you.
Unfortunately finding out how to flirt is hard for a large number of men. In our modern education system, little time is spent on teaching us relationship and sexuality skills. As a result, many of use have no clue about how to flirt and ways we can build attraction with women.
Fortunately flirting is a skill that you can easily learn.
In a previous article, I discussed the nature of flirting and why it's important to learn this skill. I mentioned the importance of doing two things before flirting with a woman. The first is you have to be completely comfortable with yourself and ignore any faults that you may have. The other is to have the right frame of mind when flirting. Your focus is to have fun and be interesting to any woman you're talking to.
By doing these first two steps, you will be creating what I like to call a "flirting atmosphere", which is a fun, low-pressure way to engage women in a conversation. If you do this right, you'll be able to build an instant connection with any woman.
Once you have the right kind of mindset for creating a flirting atmosphere, you have to ensure that your body language matches your attitude. This means your body should radiate confidence while remaining relaxed and in control.
What I mean by this is you have to show her that you're having fun in your interaction, but you're not taking yourself too seriously. As we all know, women love confident men. So you can subconsciously draw in women by giving off a positive aura.
To have the proper body language, you have to carry yourself with a straight, but relaxed posture. This signifies that you are confident while not being too stuffy.
After demonstrating your relaxed attitude, you have to give off a "welcoming attitude" with your body language. This means leaving your arms uncrossed and leaning forward to her as she is talking to you.
The final secret for learning how to flirt is to know how to use your smile. As we all know, a smile is a contagious thing. If you give her a welcoming and friendly smile, you are telling a woman that you like her and find her interesting. So when you're creating a flirting atmosphere, make sure that you give her a confident smile that lets her know you find her interesting.
Believe me when I say that your smile will be the best arsenal when it comes to flirting with a woman.
Knowing how to flirt is a crucial step to meeting and attracting women. But before you even talk to them, you have to have the right kind of body language. By being able to create a flirting atmosphere and smile with a confident manner, you will set up a relaxing situation where you can easily build rapport and possibly "do more" with her.
So get out there and start practicing your flirting skills.
Having trouble approaching and attracting women? Well take a look at Scott Patterson's FREE course on how to meet, approach and attract beautiful and interesting women. Read it today and start bringing home girls tomorrow.
Unfortunately finding out how to flirt is hard for a large number of men. In our modern education system, little time is spent on teaching us relationship and sexuality skills. As a result, many of use have no clue about how to flirt and ways we can build attraction with women.
Fortunately flirting is a skill that you can easily learn.
In a previous article, I discussed the nature of flirting and why it's important to learn this skill. I mentioned the importance of doing two things before flirting with a woman. The first is you have to be completely comfortable with yourself and ignore any faults that you may have. The other is to have the right frame of mind when flirting. Your focus is to have fun and be interesting to any woman you're talking to.
By doing these first two steps, you will be creating what I like to call a "flirting atmosphere", which is a fun, low-pressure way to engage women in a conversation. If you do this right, you'll be able to build an instant connection with any woman.
Once you have the right kind of mindset for creating a flirting atmosphere, you have to ensure that your body language matches your attitude. This means your body should radiate confidence while remaining relaxed and in control.
What I mean by this is you have to show her that you're having fun in your interaction, but you're not taking yourself too seriously. As we all know, women love confident men. So you can subconsciously draw in women by giving off a positive aura.
To have the proper body language, you have to carry yourself with a straight, but relaxed posture. This signifies that you are confident while not being too stuffy.
After demonstrating your relaxed attitude, you have to give off a "welcoming attitude" with your body language. This means leaving your arms uncrossed and leaning forward to her as she is talking to you.
The final secret for learning how to flirt is to know how to use your smile. As we all know, a smile is a contagious thing. If you give her a welcoming and friendly smile, you are telling a woman that you like her and find her interesting. So when you're creating a flirting atmosphere, make sure that you give her a confident smile that lets her know you find her interesting.
Believe me when I say that your smile will be the best arsenal when it comes to flirting with a woman.
Knowing how to flirt is a crucial step to meeting and attracting women. But before you even talk to them, you have to have the right kind of body language. By being able to create a flirting atmosphere and smile with a confident manner, you will set up a relaxing situation where you can easily build rapport and possibly "do more" with her.
So get out there and start practicing your flirting skills.
Having trouble approaching and attracting women? Well take a look at Scott Patterson's FREE course on how to meet, approach and attract beautiful and interesting women. Read it today and start bringing home girls tomorrow.
Saturday, November 25, 2006
Become a Master at Flirting With Women
Want to know the secret to succeeding wildly with interesting and hot women?
Well it's easy…all you have to do is become an expert at flirting with women.
Let's face it if you're reading this article then you probably want to be more successful with women. In fact, most single guys want to increase their success with women and ultimately find one that is perfect for them. But if you're too tongue-tied or have trouble thinking of how to act around a girl, then you'll have little chance of getting her number or going on a date.
That is why you need to know the proper techniques for flirting with women.
So what is flirting and why is it important?
In a nutshell, flirting is a part of human interaction that provides a means for expressing interest and gauging the levels of attraction in an object of interest. It can be accomplished through body language, conversations and casual touching. By becoming a master at flirting with women, you'll have an unfair advantage when it comes to meeting and attracting girls.
The first step to flirting with women is to become absolutely comfortable with yourself. While you have probably heard this statement before, I want to stress its importance. Before you can even think of flirting with a woman, you have look within yourself and find out what you find attractive.
We all have flaws. So don't be too despondent about not being perfect. If you become excellent at flirting with women, these negatives won't matter. In order to be successful at flirting you have confidence and happiness with who you are. By carrying yourself with the right attitude, you'll do a great job at the first stage of flirting.
Next you should create the right frame of mind for flirting. In order to have the right kind of attitude that women will find fun and attractive, you have to radiate positive qualities about yourself. That means when you want to start flirting with women you should be in a good mood and consciously think about how much fun you are.
By having the right kind of mind set, you'll relax yourself and others around you. This will help create a playful atmosphere that will naturally lead to successful flirting.
Flirting with women can lead to successful dates and possibly an intimate relationship. But before you can think about interacting with a woman, you have to be both comfortable with yourself and create a positive atmosphere with women. In my next few articles, I will cover a wide variety of flirting techniques that will improve your chances of success with women.
Having trouble approaching and attracting women? Well take a look at Scott Patterson's free course on how to meet, approach and attract beautiful and interesting women. Read it today and start bringing home girls tomorrow.
Well it's easy…all you have to do is become an expert at flirting with women.
Let's face it if you're reading this article then you probably want to be more successful with women. In fact, most single guys want to increase their success with women and ultimately find one that is perfect for them. But if you're too tongue-tied or have trouble thinking of how to act around a girl, then you'll have little chance of getting her number or going on a date.
That is why you need to know the proper techniques for flirting with women.
So what is flirting and why is it important?
In a nutshell, flirting is a part of human interaction that provides a means for expressing interest and gauging the levels of attraction in an object of interest. It can be accomplished through body language, conversations and casual touching. By becoming a master at flirting with women, you'll have an unfair advantage when it comes to meeting and attracting girls.
The first step to flirting with women is to become absolutely comfortable with yourself. While you have probably heard this statement before, I want to stress its importance. Before you can even think of flirting with a woman, you have look within yourself and find out what you find attractive.
We all have flaws. So don't be too despondent about not being perfect. If you become excellent at flirting with women, these negatives won't matter. In order to be successful at flirting you have confidence and happiness with who you are. By carrying yourself with the right attitude, you'll do a great job at the first stage of flirting.
Next you should create the right frame of mind for flirting. In order to have the right kind of attitude that women will find fun and attractive, you have to radiate positive qualities about yourself. That means when you want to start flirting with women you should be in a good mood and consciously think about how much fun you are.
By having the right kind of mind set, you'll relax yourself and others around you. This will help create a playful atmosphere that will naturally lead to successful flirting.
Flirting with women can lead to successful dates and possibly an intimate relationship. But before you can think about interacting with a woman, you have to be both comfortable with yourself and create a positive atmosphere with women. In my next few articles, I will cover a wide variety of flirting techniques that will improve your chances of success with women.
Having trouble approaching and attracting women? Well take a look at Scott Patterson's free course on how to meet, approach and attract beautiful and interesting women. Read it today and start bringing home girls tomorrow.
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