In relationships you both need to feel special and sexy and appreciated as much as one another, but when you have been in a relationship for a while it’s easy to take one another for granted. The more your partner feels loved, the more loving they will be in return. Here’s five ways to make your partner feel like they are the most important thing in your life – they are, aren’t they?
Pay meaningful compliments
You know how good it feels when your partner notices that you dressed up specially, just for them? They like to feel that good, too. Pay enough attention to what your partner does and says so that when you pay them a compliment, it really means something. Tell him the lawn looks great after he’s spent two hours giving it a trim. Thank her for remembering to record the footie for you.
Listen when they talk.
And that means active listening, not just nodding and saying ‘Uh huh’ once in a while. Ask real questions and then listen to the answers, make it a proper conversation.
Say thank you.
It’s easy to take the things someone does for granted – and after a while, it starts to feel like you’re taking them for granted too. Among the best relationship advice you’ll ever get is to say thank you - often! Thank you for making breakfast. Thank you for taking out the rubbish. Thank you for making me feel so good. One male friend tells me that the one thing his wife does that makes him feel great is – saying thank you after they make love. Which leads us to…
Get physical.
Express your affection physically. Touch your partner a lot. What is your partner’s favourite touch? Try to find opportunities to use it – and not just sexually. The extra hug at the door, a kiss that lasts a few seconds longer than it needs to be – all of those touches help make someone feel extra special.
Surprise them.
Call your partner at lunch just to tell them you can’t wait for them to get home. Take him out for dinner for a change – and pick up the tab yourself. Buy her flowers for no reason at all. Whisper to him that you “Oops! Forgot your knickers in your rush to get dressed for dinner”.
And here’s a bonus just because you read all the way to the end – say the words. Just tell them out loud how sexy, fantastic, intelligent, charming and fun they are. Practice positive communication from the start and you’ll never need relationship rescue.
Chris Norton writes for Armchair Advice. Armchair Advice is a UK website providing specialist job loss and relationship rescue. Whether you require emotional support, financial advice or divorce solicitors, you can find them all at Armchair Advice.
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