Showing posts with label date advice. Show all posts
Showing posts with label date advice. Show all posts

Thursday, November 23, 2006

Why Does Dating Have to Be So Difficult Sometimes?

What a confusing world of dating out there isn't it? Now there are now more singles than at any time in
American history.

Why does dating have to be so difficult? Doesn't it seem as if many men are questioning their own manhood? I

mean really...shouldn't it be a natural thing to know how to 'date women'? Why do we have great catches who are both men and women yet are struggling with their own dating and sex lives?

Yes, women are having struggles with it as well. Yet should all of this blame go onto the men? I would like to take you in for a closer look into this great social dynamic paradox.

When you think about it, isn't dating and relationships one of the most important areas of life anyways?

Instead of looking at superficial solutions like most other dating coaches will do ('work harder, join more dating sites, get out there, etc.') I want to go to the root of the issue itself. From there, all of the
action-oriented solutions will present themselves anyways.

Though I write books on this, I'll try and keep this article short.

It is our uniquely modern social dynamic itself that has affected and altered the dating and mating game.

We now live in a social culture that has essentially become more socialistic than Socialistic societies. The level of influence and effect that now exists from our socio-centric culture is unparalleled.

To clarify things, I simply call it the 'social matrix'. I originally called it the 'forced reality'. It is
the socio-cultural reality and power game that has been built on top of nature itself.

You can't deny that any number of people can exist in together because that's what makes a society.

You can look to tribal groups, villages, the caste system, townships, subcultures, prison culture, high school social dynamics, etc. but when you compare any of them to the dominant social system in the world today (Western social culture), they don't compare.

It is no longer an equal society. Architects have essentially taken over and forged the social matrix to be a perfect system of power and influence. Architects such as producers and executives have got millions of people in a chokehold without their ever knowing it.

The whole system is invisible yet incredibly pervasive. You could live your whole life in this social matrix without ever knowing it. Cultural differentiation was the one thing that saved me.

Now am I starting to sound too escapist and like a threat to this culture itself? Well, maybe you had better think about where the threat really lies?

Millions of people are stuck in a stimulus-response relationship DAILY under the power and influence of the Architects. Television, advertising, music, radio, print advertising, etc. All of this is a system which people have become accustomed to.

That are being fed 'programming' from sources outside of a purely open and interdependent relationship. It is no longer a familial society of equal and opportunistic relationships. It is a society of those in power and those who have been programmed and influenced by those in power.

The reason this affects dating is because the Architects of the social matrix have for decades been promoting and exploiting the sexuality of women. They've essentially taken them and given them 'the power'. They promote the sexploitation of women to be the stimulus or 'control' for countless millions of men to 'respond' to.

Just look at the cover of magazines or almost any ad catered to men and see how they somehow attribute a woman's sexuality to get men to 'respond'. This also gets other women to be like these women so they can rise up this superficially created (yet seemingly real) social hierarchy.

This creates trillions of dollars in revenue across multiple industries. But what it is doing when it comes to dating is this; there is now a divergence. By creating this forced reality which is the opposite of nature, there is a great dichotomy.

It is a fantasy.

They promote the fantasy. Pornography is a fantasy where women are teasingly acting unnatural to get men to 'respond'. Now we have 40 year old virgins because of this divergent dating 'reality'.

Real men who are great catches have questioned their own manhood but it was really this great social game that was being played.

Millions of women are living the dichotomy because of adapting to their social environment which tells them to be the stimulus to attract men yet the men keep buying into the fantasy. It's a fantasy for them too. It's leaving millions of people in a dating mess.

People are more independent and isolated now because they are connected to their iPOD's and downloads in a response relationship to that stimulus instead of being in a more open and truly interdependent, familial society like old Europe or small-town American (even Cheers).

The best way you can get on top of this whole dating thing is to not listen to mainstream teachers because they're teaching what doesn't work except for those ready for marriage.

What to do instead, is to seek out the true answers behind the ironic behavior of men and women today.

Therein lies your revelation and ability to actually BE yourself and finally effective around women and dating instead of consistently running into walls.


Rion Williams is one of the foremost experts in dating advice, personal power and relational dynamics. He is well-known within the seduction community itself.

His work focuses on the regaining and improving of real character within frustrated men who do don't want to 'act', use pick-up lines or techniques to get women.

He teaches modern men how to truly be natural and comfortable in their own skin to consistently succeed with women, attraction and dating. You can sign up for his free eZines and find out more information at http://www.relationaldynamics.org

He also has a free podcast at http://www.lifestyledatingradio.com

Wednesday, November 22, 2006

The Art of Seduction: How to Use 'Option Limitation' to Maximise Your Success

Getting girls to feel an attraction for you –The Art of Seduction - that isn’t simply based on your looks, the contents of your wallet or the car you’ve got parked outside. The Art of Seduction can be really tricky.
After all, how are men supposed to know what each girl’s looking for without asking (hence the word “Art” in Art of Seduction – Art is not something all men can do or understand)?

If you DID ask, you know your chances would be small, after all, no girl wants a guy approaching her with needy questions - she wants a confident man who somehow seems to know what she’s after and can give it to her (And only men who understand the Art of Seduction can do that).

So how do you do it? How do you learn the Art of Seduction and all of its specifics?

How do you become the ultimate Art of Seduction master…A man that effortlessly exudes confidence, dominance and presence…without turning into an arrogant poser or desperate wannabe?

The answer to the Art of Seduction lies in basic human psychology. It’s at the heart of all persuasive social situations, and absolutely central to the success of any guy’s attempts at the Art of Seduction. Quite simply, by learning the CORRECT psychological rules, principles and tactics, any guy can play and WIN at the Art of Seduction. For example, let’s look at one such psychological technique, that used correctly boosts any guy’s chance of getting a girl’s number or hooking up with her at a later date by at least 50%, each and every time he uses it. It’s called option limitation and works on the following principle of human nature:

When someone’s presented with only a single choice, often their natural reaction will be to rebel against it and go their own way. However, when given 2 or 3 options, the opposite occurs: they feel their intellectual freedom has been respected and they make their choice from the variety of options they’ve been presented with.

You can use this universal psychological principle when learning the Art of Seduction. This is applied to women by carefully constructing how you pose important questions or phrases while talking to them.

For example, when learning the Art of Seduction most men think saying: “Can I have your number?” is an okay way to finish a conversation that’s gone well with a girl. But a much more powerful and effective way of saying the same thing would be to use option limitation (which is a phenomenal seduction technique). Something like: “It’s been nice to meet you. Shall we swap numbers or maybe grab a bite to eat and a drink tomorrow?” What you’re doing is a subtle Art of Seduction method…you’re presenting the girl with a choice between good and better – whichever she says yes to, you win. If you only give her one option, as in the first example, she’s likely to create her own alternative, which means there’s a chance she won’t say yes to the option you gave her. When she subconsciously recognises that she’s been given a choice between multiple outcomes, she feels her intellectual freedom has been respected and she chooses one of them. Thus completing the first, and most vital step in the Art of Seduction.

So, always use option limitation in the Art of Seduction to give the impression there’s a variety of options available to the girl – even though each one is fine as far as you’re concerned. And to strengthen the effect of option limitation, always try to separate the choices you give the girl with the word “or.” When people hear “or” they automatically recognise that they need to make a choice, and therefore do just that.

Option limitation is just one example of the Art of Seduction and how, whether they know it or not, men who are successful with women (men who have mastered the Art of Seduction) CREATE that success for themselves – not through luck or good fortune.


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Sunday, November 19, 2006

How to Act Around Beautiful Women

Basically, you shouldn't 'act' at all because women will see through it.

So many people say that you should 'just be yourself' around women. The problem is that most men just 'aren't' being themselves anymore around women. And no matter how they try, they just can't! What happens when they see an extremely desirable woman?

Their physiology changes. They become hesitant, incongruent in their body language, nervous, and so forth. Why? There was a change in his relational reality when he wasn't suppose to change, ESPECIALLY when he wasn't supposed to change.

Ultimately you ARE just supposed to be yourself around women. When you're comfortable in your own skin, then they'll be able to trust you and open up to you. It's really the woman's level of interest that matters and ultimately decides if both of you are getting anywhere anyways.

When you're comfortable in your own skin even in the face of her tremendously leveraged Inner and Social character power, women will start throwing you those natural looks and flirty signals much more. They'll start desiring YOU often for nothing other than being the first man who is truly comfortable around their beauty.

From a woman's angle, sure she's beautiful but it's also a curse because it's hard to find 'real men' especially who aren't jerks. And usually it's all kinds of 'nice guys' who are stuck in the relationship of being the permanent 'response' to her which she doesn't like at all.

But how do you just 'be yourself' around women when they ARE so beautiful, empowered, intelligent and desirable? After all, you shouldn't have to develop a fake 'persona' or 'front', you should be able to let your true colors shine like our forefathers did.

Well..

You could say to change your self-limiting beliefs but that still isn't going to help most guys. Why? Primarily because the things that have limited them in the first place, they're not aware of and don't understand those powers.

It's not necessarily 'them' that is the problem. It's lack of cognition in the great relational and social power game that is going on that is preventing men and women from being normal anymore.

Once you can 'see the matrix' like Neo does, you'll be able to differentiate yourself from it and have more independent power than you ever thought possible.

You'll be able to re-frame your entire reality to one of having only win/win relationships with other people including all sources of influence coming from the social matrix itself. Then, you'll be able to let your true colors shine.

You'll be a 'real man' who doesn't need pick up lines. You can just make comfortable and social connections, then let women respond and open up to you. Then the mating game continues from there because you were born to know what to do; just unlearn everything that has gotten in the way.

Realigning yourself to power alpha relational dynamics defines all of your behavior so that you anything you do is the right thing because the women are interested and attracted.

This is the way it's supposed to be, is for the 'naturals' and that's why you'll have to trust that you really don't need to learn 'the words to say' as those are just crutches for guys who are stuck in the response reality to the stimulus of women.

I teach men how to get this level of power and fearless with Relational Mapping and Nano Elemental Oversight. Consider it advanced, power relationship management and a complete change in reality with a complete change in results.

No more 'acting', it's time for 'being'. Being that man who is comfortable in his skin before, during and after any interaction with beautiful women and that's when they know they can trust you and respond to you. It's time to be 'real'.


Rion Williams is one of the foremost experts in dating advice, personal power and relational dynamics. He is well-known within the seduction community itself.

His work focuses on the regaining and improving of real character within frustrated men who do don't want to 'act', use pick-up lines or techniques to get women.

He teaches modern men how to truly be natural and comfortable in their own skin to consistently succeed with women, attraction and dating. You can sign up for his free eZines and find out more information at http://www.relationaldynamics.org

He also has a free podcast at http://www.lifestyledatingradio.com

Tuesday, November 14, 2006

The Biggest Mistakes Guys Make On Dates With Women

Whenever a guy has a date with a beautiful woman he tries to impress her. This is so wrong. If you court a woman like we did 50 years ago, try to buy her affection with flowers and gifts or want to impress her so she will like you ... you are on the wrong track!

Look, it's amazing how every man who asked for my advice has the exact same problems with women. No wonder, they ALL make the same goddamn mistakes when it comes to women and dating.

Here's what usually happens.

Boy meets girl.

He somehow manages to get her number and now wants to ask her out on a date. Either she will just make a random excuse right there like "oh I'm sorry, I can't. My cousin is in town and I have to spend time with her" or "I have yoga class today, maybe some other time."

...or she doesn't cancel on you and will actually agree to meet up with you again. But when your date is almost over, she won't kiss you and just tell you that "you are a nice but she just isn't that attracted to you".

Then, when everything has failed and you realize that she doesn't want to be with you ... you start to wonder what went wrong.

I'm here to help.

The thing is, every guy makes the same mistakes when he is on a date with a beautiful woman. So here's my black list:

a) You pay her lots of compliments. You tell her how nice she looks and how beautiful her eyes are ... and she will say thank you but that's as far as it goes. Paying compliments is a nice gesture, but doesn't push a woman's buttons or turns her on. Oops, you're a wimp! Women don't get physical with those type of men. Sorry!

b) You try to be nice...same deal here: Women don' like nicey-nice guys and never go past a first date or further than a kiss on the cheek.

c) You act clingy and needy. The more you act like you want sex, the less you will get it. But there is nothing worse than a guy who acts needy and desperate for sex. It has to be the biggest turn-off in any woman. So relax, play a little hard to get and let her chase YOU...not the other way around.

d) You try to BUY her affection with flowers, chocolates, drinks or even a cuddly toy. It doesn' work because she will NOT get emotionally attracted to you. If you want her to think you are hot and sexy, turn up the heat by being CHEEKY...and not by buying her things.

e) You go on a classic date such as a restaurant or the movies where you even agree to pay for everything. Classic dates are out. Go window shopping or have a coffee where she has to buy the second round. Be a man for god's sake and not a doormat you hear?

So in a nutshell, everything you do that lets a woman know that you WANT her and really TRY to get her will not have a happy ending. You got to behave like you are the catch and not her.

YOU need to be the challenge no matter how beautiful you think your date looks. If you want to be with her, you have to keep her on her toes and let her wonder about you. Keep teasing her by being cheeky and busting her balls and she will get attracted to you in an instant.

But for now make sure you don't make the above mistakes anymore because if you do, you will get what 97% of other guys get after they had a date with a beautiful woman...another female friend.


Nick Shane is a street-smart Dating-Expert and author of the book "Playboyskool" and several other products that help regular guys like YOU become more successful with women and dating. Get his FREE online Dating Tips newsletter at http://www.Playboyskool.com.